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Galaxy Sugar
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First time sex (Bi-Sexual)?

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Hello,

I am 14 and my partner is 15. Both of us are girls and are Bi-Sexual. We are thinking about having safe sex sometime soon. Both of us have never had sex before (with a guy or girl) This is our first relationship. Are we at risk for STI's? Neither of us have been tested. Both of our parents' are very strict and conservative and we wanted to wait until we were more serious to tell them about our relationship. I am asking because I've only been able to find articles about STI's for people who have had sex before. Anything helps!

Thank you
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Re: First time sex (Bi-Sexual)?

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Hi Galaxysugar,

Kudos for taking time to figure out what you need to do to be safe before engaging in sexy stuff :) We've addressed a question similar to yours here, so you can check that out for details:
http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advic ... ave_an_std

Too, it's good to start building safer sex habits now, even in situations where the risks are quite low. We've got some info on how to have safe sex if you're in a girl/girl relationship (I am assuming you're both cis women, if not please correct me). Would you like those articles as well?
And you to whom adversity has dealt the final blow/with smiling bastards lying to you everywhere you go/turn to and put out all your strength of arm and heart and brain/and like the Mary Ellen Carter rise again.
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Galaxy Sugar
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Re: First time sex (Bi-Sexual)?

Unread post by Galaxy Sugar »

Thank you so much for the article! It was very helpful. We are both cis women. I would really appreciate those articles thanks :)
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Sam W
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Location: Coast

Re: First time sex (Bi-Sexual)?

Unread post by Sam W »

You're quite welcome :) Here are a few articles you might want to check out:
Figuring Out How to Be a Lesbian Safer Sexpert
Ready or Not? The Scarleteen Sex Readiness Checklist
Yes, No, Maybe So: A Sexual Inventory Stocklist
And you to whom adversity has dealt the final blow/with smiling bastards lying to you everywhere you go/turn to and put out all your strength of arm and heart and brain/and like the Mary Ellen Carter rise again.
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Galaxy Sugar
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Joined: Mon Mar 23, 2015 7:47 pm
Age: 24
Primary language: English
Pronouns: she/her
Sexual identity: Bi-Sexual
Location: Austin, TX

Re: First time sex (Bi-Sexual)?

Unread post by Galaxy Sugar »

Thanks for all the help! The checklists were very helpful. I will definitely be looking over these with my girlfriend :)
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