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How often do you feel desire?

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Sam W
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How often do you feel desire?

Unread post by Sam W »

When I was in middle school, I thought I was really weird because I felt sexual desire for people very frequently. In my head, having my brain go "dang, he's sexy" or daydreaming about sex in class felt like something only boys did. Girls daydreamed about dates and relationships (I assumed). It wasn't until later that I realized that, odds are, the level of sexual desire I feel on any given day is probably average.

So, I wanted to make a thread where folks could discuss their own experiences with desire. Have you ever felt like you thought about sex "too much?" Or, conversely, do you feel like you think about sex or feel sexual desire less than the average person?
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Re: How often do you feel desire?

Unread post by MusicNerd »

This is a really interesting question, Sam!

Hmm, well.... I personally think I feel sexual desire "too much" or more than the average bear, especially for someone who's never gone past making out with anyone (which can make me judge myself at times, but I'm working on not doing that)... But idk, that's just me. haha :P
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Re: How often do you feel desire?

Unread post by Nyako »

I have to say, it varies for me - in a relationship, I feel it a lot, I have a relatively high libido. If I'm single, though, I'm not fazed at all - I just kind of ignore it. I don't know if that's weird? I don't tend to get sexually frustrated if sex isn't an option, if that makes sense!
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Re: How often do you feel desire?

Unread post by Volleygirl22 »

Right now...to be honest, a lot. But I'm trying to put that aside for now, because there's this guy I'm really interested in, but obviously I'm not gonna jump right into sex right away
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Re: How often do you feel desire?

Unread post by magentakitty »

lol it depends alot on the time of the month... before ovulation, sometimes i feel like i think about it several times a day... at others, not much at all!
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Re: How often do you feel desire?

Unread post by Carmen »

I think I feel desire a lot too - and I totally relate to what you said Sam, about it being something it often seems like only boys do. It feels much less normalized for women to feel a lot of desire and talk about it openly - which can totally make it feel like it is "too much desire"!
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