Can I rely wholly on condoms?
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Can I rely wholly on condoms?
My boyfriend and I are thinking about having sex for the first time. We want to be safe, but I do not want to get on any kind of hormonal birth control right now. Is it risky to rely completely on a condom to prevent pregnancy during sex? I can't seem to get a straight answer if it's crazy to not have a backup method.. Thanks so much!
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Re: Can I rely wholly on condoms?
It just depends on what you are comfortable with. Two methods are always going to give the most protection, but loads of people also only use one, and condoms are as fine a choice as any, if that is the method you want to use.
They are 98% effective in one year of proper use, and 86% effective in one year of typical use. How do those rates feel to you? And are condoms the single method you would most prefer? Hormonal methods aren't your only alternative.
Would you rather have a second method, or feel better about a different some method? If so, it's not like holding off until you have what'll make you feel best about isn't an option!
They are 98% effective in one year of proper use, and 86% effective in one year of typical use. How do those rates feel to you? And are condoms the single method you would most prefer? Hormonal methods aren't your only alternative.
Would you rather have a second method, or feel better about a different some method? If so, it's not like holding off until you have what'll make you feel best about isn't an option!
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Re: Can I rely wholly on condoms?
Okay thank you so so much that really answered my question
And also, I hear those terms alot, but I've never had them explained to me. Does perfect use in a year just mean that a condom is used everytime you have sex as well as used properly within a year, where typical use would mean that condoms are used sometimes in sex and not always used correctly with in a year?
From what I've learned in my health classes and from discussions my boyfriend and I have had, I think that a condom is something we both feel comfortable using! But it wouldn't hurt to refresh myself or do some more research.. Do you guys have an STI protection/ birth control method article that you could link me to?
And also, I hear those terms alot, but I've never had them explained to me. Does perfect use in a year just mean that a condom is used everytime you have sex as well as used properly within a year, where typical use would mean that condoms are used sometimes in sex and not always used correctly with in a year?
From what I've learned in my health classes and from discussions my boyfriend and I have had, I think that a condom is something we both feel comfortable using! But it wouldn't hurt to refresh myself or do some more research.. Do you guys have an STI protection/ birth control method article that you could link me to?
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Re: Can I rely wholly on condoms?
Hello anonymous1701!
"Typical use" means that the condom is not used perfectly every time, for the entire time. This means maybe it wasn't used according to directions, or was not always used. A common mistake is letting the condom dry out (lubricant is not involved, etc.), thus the condom can easily break. A few of the other things to keep in mind are the expiration date, where the condom is stored, etc.
Check out this article! http://www.scarleteen.com/article/sexua ... trol_bingo
There you can read up more on all sorts of methods.
If you decide to use condoms, have you seen our safer sex shop? http://www.scarleteen.com/condom_shop
"Typical use" means that the condom is not used perfectly every time, for the entire time. This means maybe it wasn't used according to directions, or was not always used. A common mistake is letting the condom dry out (lubricant is not involved, etc.), thus the condom can easily break. A few of the other things to keep in mind are the expiration date, where the condom is stored, etc.
Check out this article! http://www.scarleteen.com/article/sexua ... trol_bingo
There you can read up more on all sorts of methods.
If you decide to use condoms, have you seen our safer sex shop? http://www.scarleteen.com/condom_shop
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Re: Can I rely wholly on condoms?
Holy, that was the most helpful resource I've ever seen. Thank you so so much Scarleteen for being the best sex educators on the planet, and for always being there
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Re: Can I rely wholly on condoms?
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