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Share your story.

Posted: Thu Jul 02, 2015 10:52 am
by nokatprotested
I feel like although many people read the facts on this site and know in their head there is no risk of pregnancy from the activities they participate in, there's still that "what if" factor. Maybe if we all came together and told our stories and the outcomes/progress made, it will help some users of this site, including myself, to finally be at peace with sexual choices. Hearing about people who did the same thing as you and had a good outcome will definitely help, I think. I'll start.

Hi, I'm Kat. I'm 16, from Arkansas, and have been with my boyfriend for nearly a year now. Recently, we've began experimenting with some sexual activities, but due to our strong southern baptist morals, refuse to actually participate in sex until marriage. We mainly dry hump with me wearing leggings and both of us wear underwear. He also wears jeans but they often get pulled down do they don't do much. This has been happening for 4 months and every month I've suffered from severe anxiety as a result of out intimacy. Dry sex just feels so real sometimes, ya know? One month I even had some spotting and my period was later than usual, which was very weird for me so I was convinced completely I was pregnant. But, gladly, I have had my period every month.

Finally I found Scarleteen and my anxiety had been greatly reduced by the facts this website has provided me. It would make me feel so much better to hear stories like mine from other people. What's your story? How did you deal with the "what if" thoughts? Thank you and good luck!

Re: Share your story.

Posted: Thu Jul 02, 2015 11:52 am
by Heather
It might help to recognize that dry sex IS real, in that it is as real a way to have sex as any other.

So, someone with big value or belief conflicts about sex will usually feel stressed and strained about engaging in sex, and that can often - we've seen this here a lot- manifest itself in pregnancy scares.

So, perhaps you might want to check in with yourself about if this kind of sex, any kind, is really right for you OR if the values you have around it are?

Re: Share your story.

Posted: Thu Jul 02, 2015 12:00 pm
by Ashleah
Hey nokatprotested,

Other users had a similar thought as you! Why don't you check out this thread? http://www.scarleteen.com/bb/viewtopic.php?f=25&t=1892

A couple of other users have already posted and you might find it helpful as well.