Identifying Team You
Posted: Tue Jul 21, 2015 11:44 am
Advice blogger (and friend of Scarleteen) Captain Awkward has a concept they call "team you." Team you is something to gather when you're going through tough times and need support, and consists of people who, well, support you (and can include professional support, such as therapists).
So how do you go about finding and identifying team you, especially when there can be people who you thought were on team you until something goes wrong and you find otherwise? One way is to think about the people in your life whose words and actions tend to line up. So, people who offer help and then follow through when asked. Also, you can think about how they react to other friends or family who have been in need. If they tended to be caring, understanding, or supportive, then they're a possible team you candidate. If they tended to be critical or doubtful, then maybe not.
What about y'all. How did you find people to be on team you when you went through tough times?
So how do you go about finding and identifying team you, especially when there can be people who you thought were on team you until something goes wrong and you find otherwise? One way is to think about the people in your life whose words and actions tend to line up. So, people who offer help and then follow through when asked. Also, you can think about how they react to other friends or family who have been in need. If they tended to be caring, understanding, or supportive, then they're a possible team you candidate. If they tended to be critical or doubtful, then maybe not.
What about y'all. How did you find people to be on team you when you went through tough times?