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What one thing would you drop?

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Jacob
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What one thing would you drop?

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Here's a question that has really made me think recently, even made me a bit uncomfortable, but helped me imagine moving forward from some difficult times... I'm really curious to hear what people's answers are. Or if you don't feel comfortable answering it here, what you think about it in general. Here goes:


What one thing would you drop or quit at this moment to make you happier in your sexuality or your life in general?


(I heard this question posed on the Yes Means Yes podcast recently! Here is a link to the podcast feed: http://www.jaclynfriedman.com/archives/category/podcast)
"In between two tall mountains there's a place they call lonesome.
Don't see why they call it lonesome.
I'm never lonesome when I go there." Connie Converse - Talkin' Like You
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Re: What one thing would you drop?

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This is a tough question! It's also interesting to have this worded as "what would you drop" vs. "what would you add" to make things better. Adding something is maybe more external, and dropping something feels more self-focused (although I can imagine other interpretations).
I'm not great at choosing one thing, whether it's a favorite something or one thing to improve, but I think I'd be best served by getting rid of my hesitation, whether that's a hesitation to approach people I'm interested in or a hesitation to bring up things that are important to me or to ask for things I need in a relationship. It's something I feel I've gotten better at in the past few years but I think it's still getting in my way some times.
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Jacob
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Joined: Tue Jul 29, 2014 3:33 am
Age: 36
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Location: Leeds UK

Re: What one thing would you drop?

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It is tough isn't it! I guess it is more self focused, it probably ends up being more specific too.

I can totally relate to hesitation. I wish it came more naturally to me to speak my mind.

Right now, its temporary, but I want to just drop dating any people for a while. It has been a difficult time, and taking sex/relationships out of the equation, will give me some time to reflect and recover.
"In between two tall mountains there's a place they call lonesome.
Don't see why they call it lonesome.
I'm never lonesome when I go there." Connie Converse - Talkin' Like You
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