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What do we need to do
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What do we need to do
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Re: What do we need to do
Hi Ashley,
You are spot on when you say this pattern of behavior is abusive, because it most certainly is. Unfortunately, this kind of behavior pattern is something deeply rooted within those who display it, so simply talking with your boyfriend is likely not enough. He needs serious help, the kind that someone who has been the recipient of the violence and abuse is not in the position to give to their abuser. I understand that ending the relationship would be painful, but it seems to me that staying in it may potentially become more painful.
Based on your past posts, I found a crisis service in your area: http://www.hawc.org/ I think it would be worth your time to talk to someone there about what your next steps might be. Let me know if your zip code has changed and I can help you find a resource closer to you.
You are spot on when you say this pattern of behavior is abusive, because it most certainly is. Unfortunately, this kind of behavior pattern is something deeply rooted within those who display it, so simply talking with your boyfriend is likely not enough. He needs serious help, the kind that someone who has been the recipient of the violence and abuse is not in the position to give to their abuser. I understand that ending the relationship would be painful, but it seems to me that staying in it may potentially become more painful.
Based on your past posts, I found a crisis service in your area: http://www.hawc.org/ I think it would be worth your time to talk to someone there about what your next steps might be. Let me know if your zip code has changed and I can help you find a resource closer to you.
"We must not see any person as an abstraction. Instead, we must see in every person a universe with its own secrets, with its own treasures, with its own sources of anguish, and with some measure of triumph." -Elie Wiesel
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- Pronouns: she/her or they/them
- Sexual identity: pansexual
- Location: Seattle, WA
Re: What do we need to do
Also, did you ever get the chance to take a look at this article that another staff member passed along over the summer? The Scarleteen Safety Plan
Have you been able to take any actions since you originally contacted us about this abuse?
Have you been able to take any actions since you originally contacted us about this abuse?
"We must not see any person as an abstraction. Instead, we must see in every person a universe with its own secrets, with its own treasures, with its own sources of anguish, and with some measure of triumph." -Elie Wiesel