Scarleteen

I mentioned this in another post, when I turned my boyfriend down for sex because he's upset. Anyway, I've never had to deal with my parents getting divorced. My boyfriend is taking it really hard. I told him to stay at my house for a few days, told him he can have my bed, stuff like that. But I kinda feel like that's all I can do for him, since I can't say I know how he feels. We just started dating a few days ago and he told me today he feels bad that this is how it's starting out. I want to help him through it. I just don't know what to do, since I've also never had to help any friends through this. We've been friends forever and he would always basically bend over backwards to help when I was upset about something. Please help me

Hey there,

you sound like a really caring person, so I suspect you're helping him right now by just being you. In my limited experience, it's worth an awful lot to just be there for someone and let them know that you love them. You can't do anything about the cause of his distress, and it's also very probably that you can't make his pain go away. But I'm pretty sure you can help him deal with the pain.

How about you just ask him what kind of support he would like to get from you?

Thank you. Sorry I didn't get back to this sooner. He's doing a lot better now. I did ask him what I could do, and he said he wasn't expecting me to do anything and that all he needed was time. I stuck around if I could tell he needed someone around, and he said he really appreciated it.