I think we are so, in long need of, instead, frameworks, and language that reflects them, that make clear when people are engaged in sexual activity together EVERYONE is doing. Everyone is both giving and receiving, all at the same time, if they are touching each other, or otherwise intentionally sharing expressions of sexuality together. No one is being done-to while someone else is the doer if both people truly are taking part in sex of any kind together, both really present, and no one person active while the other is passive, like a toy or doll.
One of my very favorite things about young people as a population is that I have always felt like y'all have a creativity and flexibility of language that, later in life, a lot of people don't seem to keep as much of.
I've heard a lot of ideas about alternate language like this from colleagues of mine who are my age or older, but much less than I'd like to from younger people, who I find just are more gifted in this department.
So, what do you think?
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