Query about breasts

[chocochip101]

Hi,
Firstly I want to give a huge thumsup to you guys for the work you are doing here. Previously I have gone through a lot of pregnancy scares even without their being any actual risk involved and scarleteen has helped e along the way.
But due to past experiences I think I have got some sort of phobia regarding pregnancy even though my logical mind says its impossible..
How ever , me and my bf have stopped doing anything which could remotely scare me . Basically we just make out and are always clothed.
So to have fun we concentrate on the upper body. We both like stimulating my breasts a lot. He does all sorts of stuff like squeezing , sucking the nipples etc. Recently , I noticed a dark freckle on my left breast its not raised or anything , just darker coloured circular patch . I think it was there from a long time but still I wanted to clear a few things :
A. Is the kind of stuff we are doing safe for my health. Also I'm scared if I could start lactating because of these actions. Because I definitely don't want that.
B. Is freckles or the kind I described above normal. I have not had any sort of discharge or anything. But my breasts have grown a cup size since the past few months.Also my periods used to be regular but this past month they were late by 4 days . Also the past month I joined some classes which were hectic and required me to travel regularly which might have caused me stress.
So please tell me if I'm doing anything wrong and if I should be worried?

[Heather]

A good rule of thumb is that if it feels good, and doesn't hurt, chances are awfully good that it's just fine. Breasts are ultimately there for nursing infants, and that tends to be something where there's an awful lot of not-very-gentle squeezing, even biting: breasts and nipples can handle that.

Freckles can occur on any part of the skin, and aren't anything to worry about (some of us have them everywhere!). If you do regular breast self-exams, and aren't seeing or feeling any of the issues included when we talk about breast health here -- http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advic ... of_boobies -- it's likely all good. If in doubt, just check in with your healthcare provider the next time you see them for a general exam, or make an appointment for a checkup. It's also common in puberty for breast growth to happen: that's the time most of it does, and sometimes those changes can be fast or profound. Too, water weight changes and fluctuations often tend to change breast size, sometimes pretty intensely for some people.

"Late" periods are actually those which are five or more days later than the LATEST a person would expect them, and for people with regular cycles, the standard deviation -- the average number of days cycles differ from cycle to cycle -- is 2-3 days. So, it sounds like you are still likely very regular, since a 4-day difference isn't late, and also isn't far outside the standard deviation for regular cycles.

[chocochip101]

Thanks for the speedy reply. Also I'm going to be 21 soon. So does that qualify as puberty too , and is it normal for breast size to increase at this time?
Can you please clarify if the above activities could lead to lactating?
Also if I'm always wearing an underwear and shorts or something and my boyfriend is also wearing boxers , we are at no risk of any pregnancy possibility ?

[Heather]

Lactation is something that happens to people who are currently pregnant or who have given birth: it isn't something that just happens from breast or nipple play. It happens when people will soon need to breastfeed or are breastfeeding.

Puberty generally lasts well into people's 20s, but breasts can change size or shape at any time of life. It's not like once puberty ends, our breasts are going to stay exactly the same ever more.

Per your second question:
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[chocochip101]

Okay , Thanks for your help.
And sorry about the second one !

[Heather]

You're welcome.