Regarding STIs, safer sex and relationships (also herpes)
Posted: Sun Mar 27, 2016 7:02 pm
Hello everyone,
To begin, my girlfriend and I have been together for a few months. We're also exclusive and monogamous. Last Thursday, we went and got tested for STIs (chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis, and HIV). We should have the results sometime this week (probably Monday or Tuesday).
We're both our first sexual partners, and we've been using protection every time, consistently, including for oral sex (for both of us ). We're saving intercourse until she gets on birth control, but there's no rush for that. More than likely, both of our tests will come back negative. If so, and assuming that we stay in a monogamous relationship, would we be able to go without using protection (except for intercourse, as a backup for the birth control)?
Assuming we both test negative, then we're at a low risk. Especially since we've only ever kissed people before. I don't know about her, but as for me, it's been a few years. As an addition, I got all three rounds of the HPV vaccine, Gardasil. I don't know about her, though, I should ask.
Of course, we're going to discuss this beforehand. Now, what I'm worried about, is herpes, because you can't really test for that easily. I've never had a breakout that I remember (or at least associated with herpes), but I know that doesn't mean I don't have it. That's really it, especially if we test negative for everything else. I tend to worry about things quite a bit, and I'd like to discuss this with her.
What I'm asking, is would we safely be able to go without protection (mainly for oral-to-genital sex, if we were to ever have oral-to-anal sex, we'd definitely use protection)? Also, how can I discuss my worry about herpes with her?
To begin, my girlfriend and I have been together for a few months. We're also exclusive and monogamous. Last Thursday, we went and got tested for STIs (chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis, and HIV). We should have the results sometime this week (probably Monday or Tuesday).
We're both our first sexual partners, and we've been using protection every time, consistently, including for oral sex (for both of us ). We're saving intercourse until she gets on birth control, but there's no rush for that. More than likely, both of our tests will come back negative. If so, and assuming that we stay in a monogamous relationship, would we be able to go without using protection (except for intercourse, as a backup for the birth control)?
Assuming we both test negative, then we're at a low risk. Especially since we've only ever kissed people before. I don't know about her, but as for me, it's been a few years. As an addition, I got all three rounds of the HPV vaccine, Gardasil. I don't know about her, though, I should ask.
Of course, we're going to discuss this beforehand. Now, what I'm worried about, is herpes, because you can't really test for that easily. I've never had a breakout that I remember (or at least associated with herpes), but I know that doesn't mean I don't have it. That's really it, especially if we test negative for everything else. I tend to worry about things quite a bit, and I'd like to discuss this with her.
What I'm asking, is would we safely be able to go without protection (mainly for oral-to-genital sex, if we were to ever have oral-to-anal sex, we'd definitely use protection)? Also, how can I discuss my worry about herpes with her?