Irrational pregnancy anxiety

[Marie737]

I've been having a really hard time with pregnancy anxiety lately, even though I know there is low to no risk. For context, I have never had direct penis to vulva contact, yet am still EXTREMELY stressed over the fact that my boyfriend fingered me multiple times over the weekend, even though I'm 90% sure his hands were dry every time. Due to insurance reasons I had to stop taking the pill for a month and just began again about a week and a half ago. I think this is a part of the reason I'm feeling so nervous, because I haven't been on the pill for a full cycle yet. I just don't know what to do about this crushing anxiety, I can't think about anything else. I don't want to buy plan b because I know I probably don't need it and it will mess up my cycle but I'm not sure how to ease my conscious.I also often feel kind of guilty after doing something sexual, like I'm being careful and careless (even though I am).

Can you confirm that my concerns are unnecessary? I knew that since I hadn't been on the pill a full cycle I wasn't going to exchange in any vaginal intercourse this weekend (we're long distance), even with a condom, but I still feel careless and really guilty. I start work today but I can't think about anything but this irrational issue!! Any advice will be appreciated.

[Sam W]

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy.

Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is locked, it is because you have posted this kind of question.

We CAN and WILL talk about things like:
• choosing and using a method or methods of contraception for any future sexual activity
• creating your own sexual limits and boundaries based on your needs and/or presenting them to any partners
• making sexual choices that suit your own needs, abilities and limitations, including your own readiness for certain possible risks
• help locating or using emergency contraception if and when you have had a pregnancy risk
• discussing options with a real, existing pregnancy, and help finding and accessing those options, such as abortion services and pre-natal care, or discussing feelings or concerns about a past pregnancy
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You mentioned some feelings of guilt that might be playing a role here. We've made a new thread to talk about that with you here: http://www.scarleteen.com/bb/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=4463

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