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Is it wrong that I can't masturbate? I can get horny but if I try to touch my body it just goes 'NO'.I don't feel natural, I'm a virgin and my friends have all had sex. Is there something wrong with me??

Hi CelticMoon,

While there are certainly a lot of people who masturbate, there's no one, true "normal" when it comes to sex or bodies. When you say your body just goes "No" when you try, can you tell me a little more about that? Is it painful?

It feels extremely uncomfortable and when I try to get any reaction it isn't painful but I feel humiliation, like when I try but my body is almost going ' we better stop because it's not working and you're making weird'.

Ah, okay. When you try masturbating, are you mentally aroused and into what you're doing? Or are you sort of going through the motions? It might also help to keep in mind that you can't really make masturbation weird. It's you and your body doing what feels good, and there's no one to compare yourself to.

Too, if masturbation isn't pleasurable for you or makes you feel uncomfortable, you don't have to do it. It's meant to be enjoyable, not an obligation.