I don't really like sex but want it all the time!

[alienchaser]

Hey!
I've got a sort of situation that has been bothering me a lot lately. I started to become sexually active in April of this year and ever since that I've had sex with a boy I was deeply in love with, a boy I didn't really like and was only sort of attracted to, and a boy I had a crush on and was very attracted to.
I used to be someone who really didn't feel sexual attraction towards people, but ever since the second time I had sex (still with the boy I was in love with), I became incredibly sexual. I went from someone who thought little of it and took all her pleasure through ocasional masturbation to someone who can't ever be satisfied - mentally, I want some sort of penetration all the time and I feel like I'm always turned on. The problem, however, is that when I do get sex, I kind of like it but kind of don't. Even with the two boys I was really attracted to, and even though the 3 of them were great (lots of foreplay and understanding and all that), the sex didn't 'satisfy' me at all. Actually, I often felt even crazier about it the day after. Part of this must be because I don't have orgasms with other people and feel little to nothing with clitoral stimulation (it feels great when I do it, but for some reason I can't feel a thing when they try it!), leaving it all to penetration, which is good but not that good.
In short, I don't know what to do... Having such a high libido and not being able to take care of that is driving me nuts, I'm getting really frustrated all the time because of it. Is there any way to make this better?

[Heather]

Welcome to the boards, alienchaser.

So, I think the best place to start might be by just taking an inventory of what you're looking to get out of sex with a partner. In other words, what is it that you want from sex with someone else?

It might help to keep in mind that if a lot of this is just about having something inside your vagina, and not really about wanting to be with another whole person -- which is usually going to include a process; time and communication for you to learn together what each of you wants and likes and finds "works" for you, rather than magically delivering all of that in a time or two of being sexual together -- you can do that via masturbation.

Another thing to think about is what it means for you to feel sexually satisfied. For most people, that's usually about a lot more than just getting off, even when getting off is part of sexual satisfaction, as it often is. What do you feel like that means for you? And is what equals sexual satisfaction different (as it usually is) with a partner than it is with masturbation? How? In what ways?