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hi im a 16 year old female. im in a friends with benefit relationship with this guy for about a month now and on the 8th i had sex for the first time. we first used a condom but he said it kept slipping off and we ended up having unprotected sex. he said he pulled out but i was still scared im not even on any sort of birth control and after it happened we both didnt wanna take any chances of being pregnant so we went to cvs and got aftera. i took it about 2 hours after sex and now its been 3 days. my period is suppose to start on the 17th (6 days). ive read reviews on aftera and there are people that still got pregnant afterwards and ive been having bad cramps for few hours and have been breaking out really badly and i rarely ever break out unless im on/before my period. i just dont know what to do at this point. the guy is telling me to just wait for my period but i cant just not do anything and wait for my period so i wanted to take an at home birth control. what are your suggestions on what i should do about this whole situation?

As I told you on our text service, we will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy.

Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is locked, it is because you have posted this kind of question.

We CAN and WILL talk about things like:
• choosing and using a method or methods of contraception for any future sexual activity
• creating your own sexual limits and boundaries based on your needs and/or presenting them to any partners
• making sexual choices that suit your own needs, abilities and limitations, including your own readiness for certain possible risks
• help locating or using emergency contraception if and when you have had a pregnancy risk
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You mentioned a sexual partner who sounds unsupportive, to say the least, of your anxiety and your wish to use a form of birth control (condoms), as well as possibly an unsafe partner. We've made a new thread to talk about that with you here: http://www.scarleteen.com/bb/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=5021

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