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Wearing a collar in public spaces.

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KittyPink
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Wearing a collar in public spaces.

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Awhile ago an ex of mine had bought me a loose fitting collar for christmas. Although, it's more of an emotional thing than a sexual thing for me. I wore almost the entire school year, until my grandmother had took it away from me. It was a studded black leather collar with a ring in the center, and a snap closure in the back. I'm pissed my grandmother took it, but ehh...
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Re: Wearing a collar in public spaces.

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I am sorry your grandmother took it off you! Is there anything concerning you about it? I know that would upset me, and I would need to do some self care.
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KittyPink
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Re: Wearing a collar in public spaces.

Unread post by KittyPink »

For the most part, I'm okay. Just upset over it due to the fact even after me and that ex broke up, the collar still had a lot meaning to me.
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Re: Wearing a collar in public spaces.

Unread post by Karyn »

That's totally understandable - even if the person isn't in our life anymore, objects that were gifts can still have a lot of significance. Is there anything you need from us around this? (As Jacob mentioned, some self-care might be in order, but if there's anything we can do to help, just say so!)
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KittyPink
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Re: Wearing a collar in public spaces.

Unread post by KittyPink »

Well, the closest thing I have to the collar is a dreamcatcher necklace I got based off of one of my friends quotes, an original one from them.
"You are a dreamcatcher, you are beautiful to look at and you take the bad away and only give people the good." - Andrea Blankenship

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