Scarleteen

Hello!

I've got a slightly embarassing problem when I have manual sex or intercourse with my boyfriend. If we try a certain position, i.e my on my knees, I can't help but release so much liquid. Any surface we're on will be drenched, my legs coated in liquid and it has a slight urine smell to it. (this is squirting, correct? If not, am I peeing myself? )

My problem is that I'm very embarassed any time this happens. I'll be soaked, uncomfortable and flustered beyond belief. I can't help it because it just happens with no control. Worse of all, my boyfriend will be drenched because of me and I feel so embarassed and bad any time that happens.

Is there a way to maybe stop this from happening or perhaps and reason to why this happens?

Thanks
Have a lovely day

Hi Jellowl,

Some people just naturally release more secretions than others during sex (I'm including squirting in that category), so this is likely just a quirk of your body. That doesn't make it less troublesome at times, but sometimes it helps to know that this doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you. It could help to take some preventative measures, like laying down some towels or a blanket you can wash easily before having sex.

You mentioned feeling embarrassed by this. Can you tell me more about that? You mention feeling bad that your boyfriend gets wet as well, but has he indicated that it upsets him?

The reason I feel embarrassed about it is because I've heard it's not very common. I also feel embarrassed about it because I have no control over when my body decides to do it. We could be doing whatever it is that we do and in the heat of the moment, I can feel the rush of liquid from my lower region. I'll be wet, my partner will be wet and whatever we are on will be soaked. It's really inconvenient and feels uncomfortable for me.

However, my boyfriend says that he doesn't mind, especially when he gets wet as well. He says it's great that I can do that and it's nothing to be ashamed about. (He would also like to point out that he finds it's really hot and a turn on when a girl can do that.) But for me personally, I feel very embarrassed. Is there maybe a way I can control it? If not, some advice to help me get over the embarrassment?

Thanks,
Have a nice day

I wonder how you feel about your boyfriend's ejaculate? He also can't control when his body does that, after all. Does that seem so different to you?