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Was i assaulted?
Posted: Fri Dec 02, 2016 9:02 pm
by no
I think i just got sexually assaulted. I was tipsy and this guy pressured me to do things i was uncomfortable with, but then later he said "but it is up to you" so i am confused? Was i sexually assaulted?.
Re: Was i assaulted?
Posted: Fri Dec 02, 2016 10:06 pm
by al
no,
I'm really sorry to hear that this has happened to you. It's not your fault and it's not something you should have to deal with.
I can't really answer your question for you, because it's up to each person to define their own experiences. At Scarleteen, our definition of sexual assault usually includes any sexual activity enacted on someone (or that someone is made to enact) without their consent, often through the use of coercion or force.
Unfortunately "it is up to you" sounds like a way for that person to shift the blame off of themselves and minimize the fact that they were behaving in an inappropriate and harmful way. If you didn't tell this person that yes, you specifically wanted to do whatever it was he proposed (especially when alcohol was involved), he did not get your consent, and did not have the right to push you further.
I hope you are in a safe and secure place right now. If not, I would highly encourage you to call 911, the 24/7 RAINN hotline at 1-800-656-4673, or someone you trust to help you at this moment. Please take care of yourself.