Scarleteen

So last night I had some news dropped on me, my girlfriend's mother found out she was cutting and her mother took her to the hospital. She got therapy, though in all honesty her mother needs a parenting 101 class after last night and that's all. My girlfriend is on suicide watch, which is something she isn't even remotely close to, in my opinion. Beyond that, her mother took her door (Literally took her door, off the hinges.), took any privacy she had (including bathrooms), found the phone she uses to text others. And the worst of all??!?!? Her mother treats her awfully, like she's a fragile glass doll. She also claims she's seeking attention, which isn't true.

I'm stuck at home finding out about this, with limited contact with her. And I'm already going downhill myself, with my inability to see her due to my school's policy with the 8th graders and my grandmother's crap. I'm also starting to lose the fight against my heaping helpings of dysphoria without the reliable access to support I need, so much to the fact I have phantom limb symptoms coming back on a more consistent basis. Anxiety attacks have become full-blown panic attacks and I feel like I'm going to faint sometimes. It's getting really scary...

As a just-barely survivor of adolescent everything-is-going-downhill-fast in my life with bad family stuff, partner-in-crisis stuff, and my-own-mental-health-hell, I have some basic advice.

You have two basic, and potentially non-exclusive, choices here to get through this kind of situation, in my personal and professional experience:
a) you figure out a way to dial things down in all respects, or in whatever places you can, and/or
b) you get out of what situations, interactions or relationships you can that are full of bad-downward-spiral.

It may be both. It may be one. There may be an arena where doing either isn't within reach or is outside your control, but another where you can do one or both of those things.

But what you do NOT want to do is anything that could escalate any of these situations of make them worse. For instance, you don't want to do anything ay home that could make things worse for you than they already are if you are going to keep living there. You don't want to do anything that could create more conflict between your girlfriend and her family. You don't want to add or take on any more of other people's crises when you are struggling with your own mental health and your own internal crisis.

See what I mean?

If you're on board, I'd be happy to brainstorm there choices and possible approaches with you with all the going-downhill things.