Should I disclose that I have not had partnered sex to potential partners
Posted: Fri Jan 20, 2017 4:54 pm
Okay if you have read my other posts to this site you know that my lack of a sexual history has been something that has been rather stressful to me at times. From talking to people such as friends, my counselor and people on this board I've gotten a lot more accepting and relaxed about it. There is one thing that does bother me though. Would it be wrong of me not to disclose my sexual history or rather lack their of to potential partners ? I believe in honesty when dealing with people when it comes to relationships.
I am a trans woman so when do go on dates (something I've starting doing recently through a dating app) I already have one thing to disclose already. To get around this I advertise on my profile I am trans. This is both for a matter of safety and so the other person knows about it from square one. Even though I've found a lot of people are open to dating a trans person (especially if they themselves are queer) I've heard from second hand sources some people really do seem scared of virgins. It's like they think that if we have sex and I don't enjoy myself that it will be all their fault and I will never want to have sex again. That they will ruin my sex life for years to come.
I've never had this on a date personally because I have never said anything about it but I've heard of it and read about it on online. This really puts me off having casual sex (which I don't really consider my thing in first place but I've mate one or two people who have almost cause me to change my mind). Would not telling partners be like lying? Isn't it wrong to not tell them the truth? Am I over thinking things a little? Suggestions?
I am a trans woman so when do go on dates (something I've starting doing recently through a dating app) I already have one thing to disclose already. To get around this I advertise on my profile I am trans. This is both for a matter of safety and so the other person knows about it from square one. Even though I've found a lot of people are open to dating a trans person (especially if they themselves are queer) I've heard from second hand sources some people really do seem scared of virgins. It's like they think that if we have sex and I don't enjoy myself that it will be all their fault and I will never want to have sex again. That they will ruin my sex life for years to come.
I've never had this on a date personally because I have never said anything about it but I've heard of it and read about it on online. This really puts me off having casual sex (which I don't really consider my thing in first place but I've mate one or two people who have almost cause me to change my mind). Would not telling partners be like lying? Isn't it wrong to not tell them the truth? Am I over thinking things a little? Suggestions?