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Almost had anxiety attack just using the restroom. (Not aligned restroom.)

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Almost had anxiety attack just using the restroom. (Not aligned restroom.)

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So, last school year, I had to change in the boys bathroom before I went home. (Which I disliked, throughly. Even though my friend offered to scout out the girls and let me go in there. The reason why I had to change was because it was the day we dressed up for the day of the show, which, by the way was Footloose. And, I had wore a dress which I couldn't wear home.) In the middle of changing, some rather hostile guys tried to break the door of the stall down. I was lucky enough the lock just slid over and I was able to push it back to hold them off until my friend got our Drama teacher to tell them off. We never found out who they were... and now that I had to use that same restroom in my lunch period, it came back to me about that.
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Re: Almost had anxiety attack just using the restroom. (Not aligned restroom.)

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It's an awful feeling to be reminded of scary or anxious moments: do you have any strategies for coping with anxiety when it happens?
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Re: Almost had anxiety attack just using the restroom. (Not aligned restroom.)

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Karyn wrote:It's an awful feeling to be reminded of scary or anxious moments: do you have any strategies for coping with anxiety when it happens?
Yeah, just I feel it's really stupid I have to deal with things like that due to impractical policies.
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Re: Almost had anxiety attack just using the restroom. (Not aligned restroom.)

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It absolutely is, and I'm so sorry your school isn't supportive. If you're up for it, do you think it might be worth trying to get some of those policies changed?
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Re: Almost had anxiety attack just using the restroom. (Not aligned restroom.)

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I have petition that's been printed out for quite some time just for it actually. (Haven't put it forward because some of my friends advised against it.) I've been considering pulling it out and going for it. Arranging meeting for it in my current situation will be difficult to present it to the district. I can link to it if that's fine. Obviously, with sensitive material removed. (Such as the district, any location or identifying info.)
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Re: Almost had anxiety attack just using the restroom. (Not aligned restroom.)

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A petition sounds like a good start. If there's any kind of support we can give you around this, let us know!
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Re: Almost had anxiety attack just using the restroom. (Not aligned restroom.)

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What do you have as far as educational resources? And, anything to sway any swingers on this issue?
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Re: Almost had anxiety attack just using the restroom. (Not aligned restroom.)

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Hi Kittypink,

You could start with this resource. We created for schools, and it includes concrete steps they can take as well as information to counter some common misconceptions: http://www.scarleteen.com/zh-hans/creat ... ge=zh-hans

You could also look at organizations like Trans Student Educational Resource (TSER) to see what tools they have.
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Re: Almost had anxiety attack just using the restroom. (Not aligned restroom.)

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Thanks, the rest I should be able to handle for now.
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Re: Almost had anxiety attack just using the restroom. (Not aligned restroom.)

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You're welcome, and best of luck :)
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