I feel like I'm lying every time we have sex…
Posted: Fri Mar 31, 2017 8:20 am
Back, again, with another I-can't-feel-anything thread.
It's been a while since I last posted. My partner and I have tried a lot more in the bedroom together: we've tried different positions for anal, he's managed to get 2 fingers inside me (and bring me to orgasm from it - FTM here so talking about the frontal plumbing) and we've attempted PIV sex several times (with no success and lots of pain).
My issue, however, is still this: I don't feel anything during sex. I know I'm capable of feeling because, as mentioned, I can orgasm from being fingered alone. But I am far, far too tightly wound for PIV - we're slowly easing our way there but progress is slow, and honestly I'm not sure we'll ever reach a point where he'll be able to enter me without there being pain.
So we do anal, instead. Which frankly I'm more comfortable with anyway, from a gender POV. But I just don't feel anything with anal. It doesn't hurt, but it doesn't feel good either. And (unfortunately for me, in this case) my partner has some serious stamina. He's gone a good 30 minutes before and only stopped because he exhausted himself, rather than because we both finished. It would be great if sex was in any way enjoyable - but it's not. So it's 30 minutes of me having the air punched out of me by a dick, and resorting to giving him hickeys so I don't get bored. If I try to get myself off (awkward, because angles, and he doesn't help) I orgasm (clitoral) within a minute and then feel nothing again - just this time 100x sleepier.
It's really putting me off sex, and I feel bad that I'm dodging it all the time because I love making him happy and exploring our sexualities together, and he's so attractive in bed to me. I want so badly to have that intimate connection with him, but it's just not happening.
I should probably add that 2/3 fingers are about his girth. He's about 5-6" and narrow, so not sure if it's just the shape of him that means sex feels more like being prodded in the stomach than actual intercourse. I don't even need foreplay to take him so long as there's lube. :/
Please help guys. I've been and seen doctors and everything to ensure there's nothing anatomically wrong. I just want to enjoy sex together, and it's really knocking my confidence and mental well being that I can't do this basic human thing.
It's been a while since I last posted. My partner and I have tried a lot more in the bedroom together: we've tried different positions for anal, he's managed to get 2 fingers inside me (and bring me to orgasm from it - FTM here so talking about the frontal plumbing) and we've attempted PIV sex several times (with no success and lots of pain).
My issue, however, is still this: I don't feel anything during sex. I know I'm capable of feeling because, as mentioned, I can orgasm from being fingered alone. But I am far, far too tightly wound for PIV - we're slowly easing our way there but progress is slow, and honestly I'm not sure we'll ever reach a point where he'll be able to enter me without there being pain.
So we do anal, instead. Which frankly I'm more comfortable with anyway, from a gender POV. But I just don't feel anything with anal. It doesn't hurt, but it doesn't feel good either. And (unfortunately for me, in this case) my partner has some serious stamina. He's gone a good 30 minutes before and only stopped because he exhausted himself, rather than because we both finished. It would be great if sex was in any way enjoyable - but it's not. So it's 30 minutes of me having the air punched out of me by a dick, and resorting to giving him hickeys so I don't get bored. If I try to get myself off (awkward, because angles, and he doesn't help) I orgasm (clitoral) within a minute and then feel nothing again - just this time 100x sleepier.
It's really putting me off sex, and I feel bad that I'm dodging it all the time because I love making him happy and exploring our sexualities together, and he's so attractive in bed to me. I want so badly to have that intimate connection with him, but it's just not happening.
I should probably add that 2/3 fingers are about his girth. He's about 5-6" and narrow, so not sure if it's just the shape of him that means sex feels more like being prodded in the stomach than actual intercourse. I don't even need foreplay to take him so long as there's lube. :/
Please help guys. I've been and seen doctors and everything to ensure there's nothing anatomically wrong. I just want to enjoy sex together, and it's really knocking my confidence and mental well being that I can't do this basic human thing.