Scarleteen

I get very annoyed because there's been several times when my bf and I plan a date and then he forgets to come or he's said he'll call me at a certain time but then doesn't call. Every time I pretend it doesn't bother me but it actually does and I'm wondering if I should say something to him about it but I don't know how.

I say it was never a good idea to pretend something that does bother you a lot doesn't. So, by all means, I would suggest you talk to him.

It's hardly unreasonable to ask anyone -- anyone at all -- to be generally on time and to cancel when they can't or don't want to make it to any plans they've made with a person. This is just common courtesy.

When you say you don't know how, can you explain more? How would you, for example, talk to a friend about this? Or a family member?

Thanks. I guess I'm just afraid of hurting his feelings. Plus I know it's not always his fault since he doesn't have a phone and sometimes has work issues that come up, but I just want to tell him I would appreciate if he could tell me so I'm not waiting for him. I guess I should just tell him it makes me feel kind of unappreciated. I've never really had this problem with family or friends before since I'm a total introvert and don't hang out with many people, only a few close friends.

Well, you can make clear that you're not talking about things outside of his control, but only what he CAN control.

Again, in my book, this is basic common courtesy, so I wouldn't overthink it. I'd just be mellow about it and talk about it like you did here.