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This might sound like a dumb question but I had terrible paranoia about pregnancy every time I have sex. (I lost my virginity only a few weeks ago.) My boyfriend and I had sex about two days ago and he was playing with his penis for a little before asking if I wanted to do penetration--he tried washing his hands with a water bottle (he didn't go out to the bathroom since there would be people out there) before putting the condom on, and he says there was no precum, but I'm worried sperm could still get on the outside of the condom, especially since we used so much lube? I know it's not likely but is it at all possible this way? He also pulled out before he could ejaculate because we wanted to make sure even though he had a condom on.

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• choosing and using a method or methods of contraception for any future sexual activity
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