Scarleteen

Since 9 I have been intrigued by masturbation. I've tried it many times and... I feel nothing . I'm not asexual, I know that for a fact. But if I'm aroused and want to feel something physical and try, it just goes away. I cant feel it no matter what I try. And I've tried a lot . It also brings gender dysphoria. "If I had a penis this wouldn't be a problem" is what I think a lot. It shouldn't be a big deal to me, but I just feel like I'm missing out. How do I make it work? Idk I don't really need it so i don't know why I'm overthinking it. I kinda just feel like there's something wrong with me.

Hi aaron,

There's nothing wrong with you if you're having trouble finding what feels good in terms of masturbation. Some people figure out what works for them pretty quickly, but plenty of people need more to figure it out. And dysphoria can definitely throw a wrench into the process. Do you find there are certain ways of masturbating that are less likely to trigger that dysphoria? And do you have any interest in adding things like sex toys into your masturbation experimentation?