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Hello everyone ,
I'm 21 this year and my gf is 18 this year.

Her period was last due on September 1, now right now it's October 12 she still hasn't gotten her period yet.. she was supposed to come on 1st of October..
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We had unprotected sex on 26th September as she said she started feeling her period is coming. She had brown discharge, white discharge and period cramps but no period.
We had few unprotected sex but all pulled out. Her ovalution should be around 20th September since her period is 30 days.

Yesterday she told me she felt something and she saw blood clot ( spotting ) then it stopped again.

Read from Internet .. it could be implantation ?...

Also now she doesn't feel anything that period is coming.
What should I do ?..

I'm stressing.. we recently moved to oversea to study , perhaps the weather ? But we have been here for 10 months.. our country is always hot and doesn't have season. Could that be the cause?

Any advice

So, a few things:

-It's a little unclear from your message whether she did or didn't get her period on September 1st. If she didn't get it in the beginning of September, the unprotected sex on the 26th wouldn't make a difference.

-Ovulation happens 14 days before a period, not 10.

-In general, periods do not always come exactly the same number of days apart (unless your girlfriend is on a hormonal birth control). Counting back from one 'usual' day (in this case, 30 days) and having unprotected sex within a week of that date is very risky. And yes, using the pullout method is considered unprotected sex.

-Weather doesn't often affect periods, and if you've been in a new country for 10 months it is not a recent enough move to affect her cycle. But stress certainly can affect it--both from school and from worrying about being pregnant.

I think you should really check out this page:
http://www.scarleteen.com/the_pregnancy ... _or_missed

It will walk you two through the next steps you should be taking. Hopefully by having a guide, you can lower your stress a bit.

Hope this helps!

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