I'm a virgin and my girlfriend is not... How do I talk to her about sex
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I'm a virgin and my girlfriend is not... How do I talk to her about sex
So I'm a 15 year old Lesbian. My girlfriend is 16. She has had multiple partners in the past and is a very sexual/touchy feely person. I know that she would be willing to go slow with me since I'm a virgin (haven't even had my first kiss yet). But I have no idea how to start the conversation. I'm worried I'll same something wrong and offend/scare her.
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Re: I'm a virgin and my girlfriend is not... How do I talk to her about sex
Hi there LesbianPanic, and welcome to Scarleteen!
I'm glad you feel that your girlfriend would be respectful to you, but I have to ask - are you interested in becoming sexually active? Just because she has had multiple sexual partners before doesn't mean that you need to start doing something that you may or may not feel ready for. Around here we like to use the Scarleteen Sex Readiness Checklist, a really useful tool for folks who haven't had sex before and are thinking about whether or not it's something that they feel ready for and/or want. And if you don't, that's okay! There's plenty of time to take things at a pace that feels comfortable and good for you.
Either way, we can always help brainstorm what that conversation might look like - while you're at it, you might also find Be a Blabbermouth! The Whys, Whats, and Hows of Talking About Sex with a Partner helpful!
I'm glad you feel that your girlfriend would be respectful to you, but I have to ask - are you interested in becoming sexually active? Just because she has had multiple sexual partners before doesn't mean that you need to start doing something that you may or may not feel ready for. Around here we like to use the Scarleteen Sex Readiness Checklist, a really useful tool for folks who haven't had sex before and are thinking about whether or not it's something that they feel ready for and/or want. And if you don't, that's okay! There's plenty of time to take things at a pace that feels comfortable and good for you.
Either way, we can always help brainstorm what that conversation might look like - while you're at it, you might also find Be a Blabbermouth! The Whys, Whats, and Hows of Talking About Sex with a Partner helpful!
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