Worried for no reason

[Corrie199689]

Hi, my cousin told me to check out this site cause it helped her a lot when she was having worries.

Well I have a lot of worries about pregnancy but currently I have stopped having an intercourse with my boyfriend because of these fears however I think I'm now having irrational fears about it.

I have a fear that there may be ejaculate on my underwear that could get me pregnant
Like today I took a pair of underwear from the washing line that were still quite damp and put them on (was in a hurry, late for work) if someone had ejaculated on them is that a possible risk or does that count as indirect transfer ( I was reading your articles) and does not pose a risk?

Sorry for the long message

Carrie x

[Sam W]

Hi Corrie,

Since it sounds like you know the fears you're having are irrational, your best bet right now is to not focus on those "what ifs" and instead focus on where those fears may be stemming from. Looking at this article, do any of the reasons given for pregnancy fears feel like they apply to you? You're Not Pregnant. Why Do You think You Are?

[Corrie199689]

Thanks for replying!

I just read that a few minutes ago
So basically because I haven't had genital to genital contact and ejaculation didn't come straight from a penis to my genitals there is no risk?

Basically even if there had been ejaculation on my underwear there is no risk because it isn't direct contact?

[Heather]

Per our policy, we won't engage with pregnancy scare-based questions. The policy statement has some links in it that can answer these questions for you:

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy.

Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is locked, it is because you have posted this kind of question.

We CAN and WILL talk about things like:
• choosing and using a method or methods of contraception for any future sexual activity
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