With me now identifying as a lesbian, I realize I have some hangups...
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With me now identifying as a lesbian, I realize I have some hangups...
So, I'm concerned that cis gay women might think I'm a "guy trying to get into their pants", but like while I know some might not see it that way, but like does anyone have idea on how to deal with it if I do run into someone like that?
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Re: With me now identifying as a lesbian, I realize I have some hangups...
Hi Kittypink,
That' one of those situations where, while it sucks to have someone who should be accepting or understanding of your identity try to invalidate you, they've also done you the favor of identifying themselves as someone you don't want to spend anymore time with. So if you run into a person who does this, your best bet is just to steer clear of them in the future. You could also say something to them in the moment (like pointing out that they're being rude or transphobic), but only if you feel comfortable doing so and you see some point in doing so.
That' one of those situations where, while it sucks to have someone who should be accepting or understanding of your identity try to invalidate you, they've also done you the favor of identifying themselves as someone you don't want to spend anymore time with. So if you run into a person who does this, your best bet is just to steer clear of them in the future. You could also say something to them in the moment (like pointing out that they're being rude or transphobic), but only if you feel comfortable doing so and you see some point in doing so.
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