Bullies (venting/how do i make it stop??)

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Bullies (venting/how do i make it stop??)

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So, at my school, people are very split about my friend group (we are all queer in one way or another and are friends with all the queer kids that are out at my school). More specifically they are split about the gender queer kids in my group. Even more specifically:me. By this, I mean, half either don't care or think I'm brave or something, and the other half harasses me on a regular basis. People will say my birth name over and over again when they see me, If I tell a sub my preferred name, someone will always say "Just ignore HER, HER name is [insert birth name]!" I tried to use the bathroom (I have to use the girls) and a group of girls blocked the doorway and said that if I'm a boy I should use the boys bathroom and wouldn't let me get through, causing me to be late to class. Honestly I don't know how to cope with it anymore. Talking to the dean or guidance counselor won't help because the dean is homophobic and made the people I reported students of the week (not a coincidence, they dont do their work and talk a lot in class :roll: ) I wish they knew how much it hurt me.
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Re: Bullies (venting/how do i make it stop??)

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I'm really sorry to hear this boopie. It's not cool behaviour from them and it sounds like you know it.

I can't think of any immediate solution, if even the faculty are backing this behaviour. Luckily it does sound to me like you have a good grasp of who you are, and some good people who so support you. I don't think you will be able to convince absolutely everyone, and harassment may occur. But there is a lot of strength to be built around the support you do have, and helping the society around you evolve (which is the long game). It sounds like some future steps could be to take it higher and you do have some recourse for doing that.

As per my post on your other thread, I also think it could be a really good idea to make sure we finish addressing your other question before moving here, if that's ok?
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