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ever. i respect that an i would never EVER pressure her 4 sex but i still want 2 have it. i love her very much and sex isn't a huge deal but im interested in it an she isnt so idk what to do. advice?

The first thing to look at in this situation is what kind of relationship you both want to be in.

It sounds like you want a sexual relationship. It appears she doesn't. That means that this isn't someone you're going to be able to have a sexual relationships with, not any time soon anyway. and not unless her feelings change. And that's not something for you to try and do: when someone doesn't want to be sexual with us, the ONLY right response is to just accept that. If WE want to be sexual with another person, we need to find someone to be sexual with who also wants to be sexual with us, you know?

have you two talked about what kind of relationship you want? And maybe, if you have been together a while, since before you were interested in a sexual relationship with her, have you talked about that it's possible your relationship might need to shift to something else, whether that's something that doesn't have to be exclusive, something that's romantic, but not sexual (and allows you to have a sexual relationship with someone else), or if maybe being girlfriend-girlfriends isn't right for you anymore if your wants are really different?

weve been dating 4 over 1 year an i do accept that she doesnt want sex. like i want 2 have sex but also i love her very much an dont wanna break up with her. weve been best friends 4 years. i know open relationships r a thing but idk how to bring that up 2 her.

Changing the nature or kind of relationship doesn't have to be a breakup, but it sounds like you're saying what you'd like to do is talk about considering a relationship with her that is sexually open. Do I have that right?

If so, have you seen this here yet: A First Polyamory Guide?

I'm happy to talk with you more about how to talk about this with a partner, but that starter set might be good to read before we do that.

thanks! ill make sure 2 read up

Happy to help. Feel free to shout back after if you want some more help with this.