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So, like I found a way for me to masturbate where I can pleasure myself without dysphoria, but like I feel like I'm "essentially admitting that I don't have dysphoria", which I have dysphoria, just found a cheat around it in this instance. And like I guess like being okay with pleasuring myself with my current stuff makes me feel like I'm being a hypocrite or something.

Hi KittyPink, I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling this way.

I know it may be hard to agree with, when you're feeling otherwise, but not experiencing dysphoria for any period of time means just that, that you're not experiencing it then. It doesn't mean that you don't experience it at other times, and it doesn't mean that you don't experience dysphoria at all.

Can you tell me more about what feels hypocritical to you about not experiencing dysphoria while masturbating? Are there other times where you don't feel dysphoria? If so, do you feel hypocritical then?

It's mainly because I have bottom dysphoria, but like I can get away with not getting dysphoria when masturbating the way I figured out, and it feels like I went back on how I said I probably wouldn't have sex or masturbate because I have too much dysphoria. And I really can't think of any other time I don't have dysphoria except when I'm topless and see that I have no breasts.

In case you need to hear it, or it generally helps, I also just want to post a reminder that someone doesn't have to have dysphoria at ALL to be trans. In other words, even if you didn't have *any* dysphoria, that wouldn't somehow validate your identity or your gender. You don't have to have dysphoria, a certain level of it, or always be suffering because of it to be trans; to be who you are. <3