Romantic Confusion
Posted: Mon Jul 16, 2018 8:18 pm
Hi, I am a fourteen year old female high school student. Recently I have rediscovered feelings for a boy I had had a previous interest in for a long time. My friend has offered to help me get to know him better as she and him are friends. Although the prospect of being able to have a relationship with him really makes me feel excited and I want to get to know him as a friend as well, it made me really reconsider if I am ready or am in need of a romantic relationship.
I've never had a boyfriend, or any guy best friend. Generally, most guys in my life so far have only played the role of a bully, or actively tried to make me feel like less of a person. I feel that this has skewed my ability to reason as to why I am interested in a relationship with this boy, in a sense that I want a guy to view me in a loving and and respectful sense, instead of a target or a inferior person. This isn't to say that all men are like this, it's just that my experience so far has hurt my trust in males in general. And as a result, I think that I am trying to have a relationship with a guy in an attempt to unlearn my past experiences. I don't feel comfortable explaining this to my parents, as they would disprove of me being interested of relationships at all.
I'm not in a hurry to solve this problem, but it's something I've been thinking about for a while, and I'm not sure how to handle it.
I've never had a boyfriend, or any guy best friend. Generally, most guys in my life so far have only played the role of a bully, or actively tried to make me feel like less of a person. I feel that this has skewed my ability to reason as to why I am interested in a relationship with this boy, in a sense that I want a guy to view me in a loving and and respectful sense, instead of a target or a inferior person. This isn't to say that all men are like this, it's just that my experience so far has hurt my trust in males in general. And as a result, I think that I am trying to have a relationship with a guy in an attempt to unlearn my past experiences. I don't feel comfortable explaining this to my parents, as they would disprove of me being interested of relationships at all.
I'm not in a hurry to solve this problem, but it's something I've been thinking about for a while, and I'm not sure how to handle it.