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Hi, I’m a queer woman with a vulva (former username "bluejumprope" - I had trouble logging in). On Saturday I got a bit of semen in my mouth from someone who is HIV+. His viral load is undetectable.

I’m new to sex with semen-folks and HIV+ folks and can’t tell what level of concern is appropriate. I’m thinking about PEP, but I think that might be overkill given the situation.

Also, potentially related: I woke up this morning feeling sick - flu-like. It seems like that would be a couple weeks too soon for that to be HIV related, but at any rate, it’s making me nervous. I was maybe starting to get a sick a few days ago.

Would y’all think PEP is appropriate in this situation, or would you advise just waiting it out?

Thanks!

Good to see you.

Here's the deal with oral transmission of HIV: we know that it is far less of a risk than vaginal or anal sex, but it is still a risk, so condoms or dams would always be advised for use with partners for those who are HIV+ and whose partners are not. Here's some good info for you on that from Avert: http://www.avert.org/oral-sex.htm

I'd suggest calling into your healthcare provider and seeing if a PEP is available to you, personally (and obviously, moving forward, would suggest safer sex with oral sex as well as for vaginal or anal sex with a partner who is HIV positive).

It's good to see you.

Thanks for this info. Would it be possible to message with you privately?

I can go ahead into our chat now, sure.

It's here: http://www.scarleteen.com/webim/client.php?