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Dry sex

Unread post by Notmyname »

I have searched and searched the internet and have read everything I can find regarding dry sex... with at least one person wearing underwear and there being no penetration. Sites either say it is a possibility or absolutely no possibility. I have read where Scarleteen stands on this issue, but my question is... has there EVER been ONE case documented where a girl has gotten pregnant in this manner?
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Re: Dry sex

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This isn't about where we "stand." It's about all the things that need to be going on -- and minimally, that's a way for there to be *direct* contact between someone's genitals and semen, which can't happen with something in between like fabric -- for pregnancy to be possible. That's not a matter of opinion, it's science. In the event you haven't read this piece, this piece explains, based on current reproductive science, how conception happens and all that is required for it to happen: Human Reproduction: A Seafarer's Guide.

There is no study of if pregnancy happened from activities where it can't based on the most basic things we know about reproduction, so we can't discuss "documented cases" of pregnancies from things that don't cause pregnancy, because no one has bothered to study those things because people who engage in this work already know the answer and have fir a very, very long time. Make sense?
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Re: Dry sex

Unread post by Notmyname »

Yes ma’am thank you for answering
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Re: Dry sex

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You're welcome. (And just for future reference, I'm not a fan of being called ma'am or other gendered titles like that. Heather works just fine, thanks. :))
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Re: Dry sex

Unread post by Notmyname »

I am from the south.... it’s a term we use to be polite and show respect. Thank you Heather
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Re: Dry sex

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I get it, it's just not a good fit for me as a person who doesn't like having gender assigned to me by other people, which terms like "ma'am" or "mister" do. But no worries! :D
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Re: Dry sex

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Thanks Heather!
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Re: Dry sex

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You're welcome. :)
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