Their relationship is horrible and i hate it
Posted: Tue Oct 23, 2018 9:42 pm
My parents' relationship is toxic and I'd probably say abusive as well. Since the beginning of my teen years I started to notice that things in their relationship were totally not normal. They would swear at each other, physically fight one another, my dad would leave and then later on would come back, then after that they'd act all lovey dovey and then it'd start all over again. I tried ignoring it and writing it off as "their own problem", until it got REALLY bad this year and it started to affect me.
Back in March, my parent's were fighting in the car. I had to go outside and break it up. They both were drinking, but dad drank way more than mom. He was punching her and pulling fistfuls of her hair out. He let go of her and she told me to retrieve the box of wine that was in the car with him. I did that and got hit in the face by him and got chased into the house. He left right away that night and the next day my mom allowed him to come back.
I felt so BETRAYED and hurt. I was so angry at my mom for doing that, and I think that's what sealed the deal; I wanted nothing to do with him.
A couple months flew by, they'd have little arguments here and there along with some swearing. It crossed the line when my mom decided to get a tattoo. He was so angry at her and swore at her. Even telling her that he wanted a divorce. Weeks later they were arguing, he wanted to see who she was messaging on her phone and he later broke it. He didn't leave like he usually would, instead he stayed and said that he'd make our "lives a living hell".
I'm so confused because a couple days after that, he cried and apologized and said he wanted to change. This happened after my mom straight up told him that she was done with and didn't love him. Lately he has not verbally abused me or threatened violence or actually hit me like he did last month. He's acted super nice, but I feel like it's bullshit. Last night I heard him arguing with my mom and he swore at her . I think he even hit her because they were talking to each other on the phone and she said "my arm still hurts after you hit it".
My mom said that she was thinking of giving him another chance. I was so pissed off at that that I ignored her the whole day. After all that she and I went through, she still loves him. I made a comment like "you guys have a bad relationship" and she told me to "not to tell her what to do".
((((( I just got back from the living room because I heard my dad punching my mom, I felt like I was gonna die my heart was beating. Right now I hear him yelling at her and I don't know if the cops will be called. I'm gonna be more hurt and pissed off if they act like this didn't happen. I HATE IT. ))))
Back in March, my parent's were fighting in the car. I had to go outside and break it up. They both were drinking, but dad drank way more than mom. He was punching her and pulling fistfuls of her hair out. He let go of her and she told me to retrieve the box of wine that was in the car with him. I did that and got hit in the face by him and got chased into the house. He left right away that night and the next day my mom allowed him to come back.
I felt so BETRAYED and hurt. I was so angry at my mom for doing that, and I think that's what sealed the deal; I wanted nothing to do with him.
A couple months flew by, they'd have little arguments here and there along with some swearing. It crossed the line when my mom decided to get a tattoo. He was so angry at her and swore at her. Even telling her that he wanted a divorce. Weeks later they were arguing, he wanted to see who she was messaging on her phone and he later broke it. He didn't leave like he usually would, instead he stayed and said that he'd make our "lives a living hell".
I'm so confused because a couple days after that, he cried and apologized and said he wanted to change. This happened after my mom straight up told him that she was done with and didn't love him. Lately he has not verbally abused me or threatened violence or actually hit me like he did last month. He's acted super nice, but I feel like it's bullshit. Last night I heard him arguing with my mom and he swore at her . I think he even hit her because they were talking to each other on the phone and she said "my arm still hurts after you hit it".
My mom said that she was thinking of giving him another chance. I was so pissed off at that that I ignored her the whole day. After all that she and I went through, she still loves him. I made a comment like "you guys have a bad relationship" and she told me to "not to tell her what to do".
((((( I just got back from the living room because I heard my dad punching my mom, I felt like I was gonna die my heart was beating. Right now I hear him yelling at her and I don't know if the cops will be called. I'm gonna be more hurt and pissed off if they act like this didn't happen. I HATE IT. ))))