Scarleteen

I know I probably shouldn't but over the last few months I have mastubated with my older sisters vibrator quite a few times without her knowing. Can I catch an STI or any other infection from this?

I always wash it with water before and after i use it.

Hi Debs,

Yes, it is possible to transmit STIs through sharing sex toys. This is one of the reasons that we often recommend covering them with a condom. Just washing with water isn't totally effective - unless you are sterilising it by boiling and not all toys can be boiled. That's not the only reason it's not a good idea to use it without her knowing though. You also don't have her consent, and it's an invasion of her privacy.

That's not to say you can't be using sey toy's. If you aren't able to buy something for yourself, how about checking this article out: D.I.Y. Sex Toys: Self-Love Edition. What do you think?

Thanks Sian,

I'm definetely going to try and stop using hers

I have tried D.I.Y options including an electric toothbrush but never found them to be as good as an actual vibrator. I will try and get my own somehow

Thanks
Debs

Hey Debs,

Totally hear you that an electric toothbrush hasn't worked as well for you as an actual vibrator. After all, "actual vibrators" are specifically made for sexual pleasure and electric toothbrushes aren't. That being said, one of the most popular vibrators, and one that is considered the "strongest," is the Hitachi Magic Wand. That is actually a back massager! If you don't want one that is that strong, there are other types of vibrating back massagers--many of them work as just well as sex-toy-marketed vibrators, and so many people use them for that purpose! These products can be bought at a store like Target, rather than a sex toy shop where there is an 18+ rule. Let me know if you have any more questions about this!

Thanks Alice

Ideally I would want one that is more phallic looking, My Sisters is one of those rabbit like ones which I really like. But don't know where to get one and definetely don't feel comfortable speaking to my mum or sister about this.

So Might see if I can get a massager like you advise, Think I have seen them in shops. Can any be used for this purpose or does it have to be a specific type? is there something specific i need to look for?

Thanks
Debs

Any sort of vibrating back massager would be fine to get. You may see ones with different shapes or vibration functions, but they should all be safe to use as vibrators - just be aware of the material they're made out of. Some vibrators are a hard plastic that can't be cleaned easily, and covering the toy with a condom can be a safer awy to use them.