Sex and feelings

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molly_k30
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Sex and feelings

Unread post by molly_k30 »

Hello!
I am 14, me and my boyfriend recently did the deed with protection. We have done it 2 days in a row, both protected. I am not on birth control or anything like that. Is it weird to have a uneasy feeling in your gut after sex? Like something is wrong? This is really worrying me and I’ve been asking my boyfriend if there was any way possible that I could be pregnant. I’m really scared and I need your help. Just for farther information that may be needed, I don’t know, we did it on the 31 and 30 of 2018. Thanks for listening!
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Re: Sex and feelings

Unread post by Heather »

I wouldn't say it's weird, because just like there can be a lot of things to feel good about and comfortable with with any sexual experience or activity, there can be a bunch of things we might feel bad or uncomfortable about. Personally, I think it's a good idea to pay attention to our feelings and to try and make sense of them, especially if the feelings we are having are uncomfortable.

You seem to be assuming that feeling is about fear of pregnancy. While it's our policy not to engage with pregnancy scares, are you sure these feelings are about that? Do you have concerns you didn't use the condoms properly, or do you feel like you just don't feel comfortable enough using condoms alone? Or do you think these feelings may be about more than that, or about something else altogether?
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