Relationship quality over long distance

[DArwin]

Hello
I am heading off to college in a couple of years and I wonder if spending more time with my girlfriend will make it harder to have a long distance relationship. and also just any long distance relationship advice
Thank you in advance

[Sam W]

Hi DArwin,

That's a tricky question, because for some people spending a lot of time in a relationship prior to it becoming long distance can help lay a foundation that makes it easier to maintain the relationship. But other folks find that if they've gotten used to spending a ton of time with their partner, that can make the transition to a long-distance relationship even harder. So, a helpful starting place may be: what do you want to do? And how does that line up with what your girlfriend would like to do?

As for more general advice on long distance relationships, this article is a good place to start getting that information: Going the Distance: A Few Thoughts on Long-Distance Relationships

[DArwin]

Hi
thank you for responding
I have asked her this question, and she seemed indecisive but said she would want to spend more time together, and I would like to spend more time with her

[Siân]

Hi DArwin,

It sounds like you both know what you want! It's impossible to predict how things will turn out in the long term - especially if you have a couple of years before you go to college and long distance becomes a possible part of your life - so I'd say if this feels good now go for it. Of course, you can (and should) keep talking about what you both want, and know that those things can change with time. Does that make sense?

[DArwin]

Yes it does thank you