Scarleteen

Ok so I have a big problem.I want to be a boy ever since I came out as trans when I was 16.Now I'm 24. I have a top surgery date on 26th February.I'm scared I'm going to regret it.

We can talk with you about this, but this is also a conversation you should be having with your healthcare team, including your psychiatric provider(s). Have you spoken with them about this and with all the other current struggles you have posted about on the boards?

I spoke to my "regular" psychiatrist about changing my mind and she said I should do the surgery.
I haven't talked to my sexual therapist yet since I have an appointment only in February.
My mum says that since I am unhappy about my breasts now,even if I regret the surgery it won't be worse then now.

My suggestion then would be to wait at least until you've had a chance to talk to the rest of your healthcare team about this issue, along with the other concerns you've posted about on the boards.

If you want information on the myths and realities of trans people regretting surgery, that's something we can provide you with, but ultimately the bulk of your conversations about this should be with your healthcare team, as they're best equipped to address your concerns.

additionally, there can be different ways in which people end up dissatisfied / regretful of top surgery. it could help to pinpoint whether you're concerned you'll regret
a. not having breasts anymore
b. the cosmetic outcome of the surgery
-it appearing bad
-it appearing less aesthetically pleasing than breasts
c. something going wrong during surgery that messes it up

ultimately, if you have dysphoria and that pertains to your chest, you will likely not regret it and i think everyone stops and worries if they will. like sam said, speak to your healthcare team and believe in yourself. you'll be fine!

Top surgrey done on 27th February. Totally did NOT regret it. Happy with the results

I'm so glad you're happy with your results! That's great to hear.