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Hello i'm 14 years old and iv'e been masturbating pretty often for a while now but more recently have been trying to orgasm because iv'e heard that it feels amazing and I really want to experience that. I have tried a lot of different things to try to get to that point, porn, various objects, hands, clit, butt stuff, different areas and strokes but none of it seems to get me to that spot. The other thing is that whenever i'm doing it iv'e felt I had to pee so I try to do it in the shower but the water doesn't help as far as lubrication goes, iv'e also tried setting down a towel which helped we not fear so much that i'm going to pee and stain my bed or floor. Except earlier I set down a towel and went at it and 30 minutes go by and i start to feel like I really have to pee but I thought it was all in my head so i kept going and a few seconds later I realize that i'm peeing (I peed before I started too) and it was a lot and it leaked through the towel and it was just really annoying and this is not the first time something like this has happened. Is that normal? i know everybody body is different and i shouldn't be ashamed of it and i'm not but i just wish that i could orgasm and not pee whilst trying to do so. The other thing is that all of my best friends are guys and i'm not comfortable talking about this stuff with friends that are girls because i barely know them but when i try to talk about this stuff with my guy friends they don't understand because apparently they can orgasm in less than 5 minutes and i'm over here trying for like 40 something and pee myself...

HI Mozzarella Stick, I like your name! Welcome to Scarleteen.

I'm sorry you are experiencing something of an inconvenient (but hopefully enjoyable) orgasm!

Nothing here sounds abnormal or problematic, but I'm sorry you're experiencing it as a real annoyance.

It sounds like you are doing all the right things - from recognising self-acceptance to trying a few different practical solutions (towels etc). I can't say how or if this will change for you, but my guess is that if you continue to think and experiment the way you are, you might learn to differentiate the different rituals that bring the outcomes you are happiest with.

To be honest all masturbation is a little icky, and I mean that in the best way. Whether pee or semen or sweat, fluids have a habit of showing up when we are enjoying ourselves and everyone has to do a certain amount of clean up.

Do you think you're ok with carrying on learning and trying stuff out?

yea ill keep trying thanks for writing back so fast

No problem!