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Bleeding After Fingering

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scared&worried
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Bleeding After Fingering

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This week my boyfriend started fingering me. I've been bleeding afterwards. It was unexpected in terms of the bleeding. I've never been fingered before until now. It's happebed each time since then. Is this normal?
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Re: Bleeding After Fingering

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A couple things: are your partner's fingernails well trimmed, with no sharp edges or hangnails? Are you using plenty of lube, and adding more as needed?
"Where there is power, there is resistance." -Michel Foucault
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scared&worried
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Re: Bleeding After Fingering

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Yes they are well trimmed.
It's been better since we've been using lube. :)
I don't know why but I was nervous to use it but it's helped so much.
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Re: Bleeding After Fingering

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Glad that was a simple fix!

Sometimes the idea of new things, especially on something sensitive or personal like genitals, can be a bit scary or odd. Too, there are some - completely false! - ideas floating around that needing to use extra lube is some kind of failure or bad thing. Sometimes, we can absorb a little of ideas like that, without even really knowing that we have.
The kyriarchy usually assumes that I am the kind of woman of whom it would approve. I have a peculiar kind of fun showing it just how much I am not.
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Re: Bleeding After Fingering

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Thanks, haha you totally are reading my mind and it makes sense. Never thought of it like that.
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