Welcome, curehime!
Amy Gravino is a woman with autism and an autism spectrum advocate. You might be interested in checking her out, specifically her
public access videos, which do include the topics of sexuality and relationships.
I couldn't find any Ted Talks specifically about dating with autism, but if you look up Ted Talk videos about autism, you'll find a lot of talks by women! They might be worth checking out. Even if they're not specifically geared towards dating, that might be something briefly covered in the talk anyway.
I did find some interviews about what it was like to date as an autistic woman. They're not really guides, but you might find them useful anyway.
https://themighty.com/2018/08/dating-autistic-woman/
https://the-toast.net/2015/01/15/dating-while-autistic/
https://medium.com/@amandatendlers/dati ... a2579fe4df
Asperger's Syndrome and Sexuality: From Adolescence through Adulthood does sound like it's more geared towards men than women, but it's also geared towards teens, so it might be a useful resource. A lot of reviews do complain it's geared more towards clinicians than individuals with autism themselves, though, so it's one I would definitely try and get through your library/ILL/overdrive. (Also I've found libraries are really excited to get book recs. Whenever I made a rec for something I couldn't find in the library but wanted to read, I always saw it show up in my library a short while later.)
It doesn't look like
Spectrum Women: Walking to the Beat of Autism specifically covers relationships and dating judging by the table of contents, but it's a book written by several autistic women with some great reviews, and you might find it helpful in general.
I hope some of these help you! There is an appalling lack of representation and resources available for autistic women compared to men. </3