I am a virgin and NBSB I tried to
I am a virgin and NBSB I tried to
I am 18 years old. Single since birth. I am virgin and I don't have any make out or sex experiences. I tried to rub myself but I don't feel anything at all. When I touch my clit I just felt something but not enough to give me pleasure that I need. I tried to watch porn but It doesn't have any effect on me. I don't know what to do. What should I do?
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Re: I am a virgin and NBSB I tried to
Hi loveeey24,
When it comes to masturbation, giving yourself permission to explore and experiment is big part of it feeling good. Have you tried a lot of different ways of masturbating, or have you mainly focused on clitoral stimulation? And when you're masturbating, are you mentally aroused as well as physically aroused?
With porn, while some people enjoy it, others find that it doesn't do much for them (or that they prefer a very specific kind). It can actually be a more helpful starting place to connect with your own fantasies, and try incorporating those into masturbation, whether through porn or another means: How to Approach Sexual Fantasy and Desire on Your Own Terms
When it comes to masturbation, giving yourself permission to explore and experiment is big part of it feeling good. Have you tried a lot of different ways of masturbating, or have you mainly focused on clitoral stimulation? And when you're masturbating, are you mentally aroused as well as physically aroused?
With porn, while some people enjoy it, others find that it doesn't do much for them (or that they prefer a very specific kind). It can actually be a more helpful starting place to connect with your own fantasies, and try incorporating those into masturbation, whether through porn or another means: How to Approach Sexual Fantasy and Desire on Your Own Terms
Re: I am a virgin and NBSB I tried to
Yes, I only did clitoral stimulation and when I am masturbating, I am not that mentally aroused as well as physically aroused. I just want to feel horny. I'm just worried because I don't know how to feel horny and such.
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Re: I am a virgin and NBSB I tried to
Sometimes arousal happens on a different time-frame that we'd prefer, and you may need more than just touching your clit. Everyone's different - and experimenting to find out what you like/need can actually be fun! It might take some time and effort, though, to figure things out.
Did you have a change to read the article that Sam shared? It has a bunch of different things that can contribute to your experience of desire and arousal. What do you think about some of the suggestions in the article? Have you tried anything in there, or would you be interested in exploring some of them?
Did you have a change to read the article that Sam shared? It has a bunch of different things that can contribute to your experience of desire and arousal. What do you think about some of the suggestions in the article? Have you tried anything in there, or would you be interested in exploring some of them?
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