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by Sabine
Fri Sep 18, 2020 1:47 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 23282

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

Yeah, I really want to do that. That can be great. I was thinking along the lines of “Hey, heard that the wildfires are bad. If you ever need someone to talk to, you can always video chat with me! however, I understand as you are busy with your sister. Please let me know if you ever want to.” Or is ...
by Sabine
Fri Sep 18, 2020 5:34 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 23282

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

Also, I am debating whether to invite her again to video chat and then ask her her feelings and tell her mine or tell her how I feel how I fell in the same message as the other ones I wanted to tell her (if I should include them). I want to say this because I may not get the chance to video chat wit...
by Sabine
Thu Sep 17, 2020 2:59 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 23282

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

Yeah, I can understand that. I really do. Got rejected last time by a girl because she was so busy. And at least I want to casually date her, but I really want a romantic connection. I cannot have a sexual relationship right now because the distance (she totally accepted it and was cool with it). I ...
by Sabine
Thu Sep 17, 2020 2:28 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 23282

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

Thank you so much! I will keep that in mind. I also want to ask you with the evidence I gave in the top post, do you think she is interested in me (you don’t have to answer if you don’t want to, just someone answered it before)? And how do I ask if she’s interested without being so blunt? The colleg...
by Sabine
Thu Sep 17, 2020 11:29 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 23282

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

Also she had a bunch of expressive, positive emojis with the especially two comments that stood as my interpretation of flirting, as well as the video chatting comment and (as well as a texting saying she was looking forward to doing it so much as well). But, it doesn’t register on this forum. Somet...
by Sabine
Thu Sep 17, 2020 8:38 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 23282

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

Yeah, I can understand that, well ... I also thought that leaving messages on read meant that someone’s not interested in you and that clearly someone ghosted you. and also, I don’t see her activity on the app (as I often see people on the Online right now function and can see whether people are onl...
by Sabine
Thu Sep 17, 2020 1:34 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 23282

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

I think that would be a good idea, maybe send it in a few days, one week or two weeks. And also what do you mean the lack of response doesn’t mean she’s not okay. She didn’t leave my texts on read, both on Instagram and my dating app. It means she did not respond to them, she did not even check the ...
by Sabine
Wed Sep 16, 2020 1:50 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 23282

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

You know what could happen to her where my crush is not checking anything? I am hearing more and more about fires, especially along the West Coast in the US. I am terrified for my friends. Orange Skies and shit. Just worried my friends could have died and so could her. Do you think that is a valid r...
by Sabine
Tue Sep 15, 2020 3:04 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 23282

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

Thank you so much. That’s what I was exactly thinking. It was hard on me and I still think about it and how I don’t want to be like him. I am trying to fight the perceptions and my past mistakes all the time. Thank you so much. And thats what I hope to do as well. I really also am eager to talk to p...
by Sabine
Mon Sep 14, 2020 1:36 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 23282

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

And also, why is she special and I have a crush on her: 1. Well, she flirted with me obviously 2. She accepted my distance situation and she understood it and she didn’t shy away from it when I told her. 3. She accepted my invitation to video chat once I said so and we started planning. 4. She was s...
by Sabine
Mon Sep 14, 2020 12:49 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 23282

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

Thats what I mean, I don’t want to exclude autistic people. But, I don’t want to use autistic-only dating sites as well (assuming that autistic women will accept me for me much quicker and will be more loyal). So, its basically me. I already have that idea, that self respect and preservation and rep...
by Sabine
Mon Sep 14, 2020 8:49 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 23282

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

What I was elaborating was that in fear of being a “lack of women” that I both like and that like me back for dating reasons, I have to date someone I don’t like. Which of course is never a good thing, but its taking eons for me and my mind. I also don’t want to have to feel like I am dating only au...
by Sabine
Mon Sep 14, 2020 8:14 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 23282

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

Yes this is what they were trying to do, give me good advice. I don’t know if they ended up doing that well. I have seen it. First of all, I thought of women before as that, but not any more. Now I am overly careful of how they are feeling, like I sometimes think over and over if this could work out...
by Sabine
Mon Sep 14, 2020 8:09 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 23282

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

Yes I can. I actually sent out a form to my college counseling program to try and get me to connect me with a counselor. It’s without my parents permission, but turns out I don’t have to pay for any of it, although I should ask in an email. Thats what I was thinking too. I do understand their intent...
by Sabine
Mon Sep 14, 2020 7:29 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 23282

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

This all started because I wanted to send her a short birthday message on the app. I thought was younger than me, but she turned a year older than me. I wasn’t sure whether it was her real birthday, as I don’t give major sites my real birthday. I wanted to ask her this and if this was true, say happ...
by Sabine
Mon Sep 14, 2020 4:38 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 23282

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

Well, one way that my parents try to make me feel better (and other previous “crushes”) is to say that she is not even a crush. But, would she even even count as a crush? I mean we have had exchanges with her on the app and I had never seen her on camera. However, she had given pictures of me and ve...
by Sabine
Fri Sep 11, 2020 3:53 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 23282

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

I would like someone who at least has my looks type and has a good personality. And likes me back. Because this will be my first relationship, if I communicate with them beyond a month and see them often via videochat because quarantine. I also feel like I have to prove to my parents that this is re...
by Sabine
Thu Sep 10, 2020 11:55 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 23282

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

This is one of the reasons why I am cautious about dating people in Austria. I know I am set to go to the US. I am so set in the future and want to plan for the future. I don’t want to set them up with the expectation that we won’t end up for the long haul (more than 3 weeks - 5 months) or that she ...
by Sabine
Thu Sep 10, 2020 11:29 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 23282

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

I have been doing some things besides focusing on her reactions and that can be good or bad. I have been playing Animal Crossing, working on school, working on my internship, swimming and walking. But, also a lot happened, my sister perhaps is going away to college, I am forgetting to discuss findin...
by Sabine
Wed Sep 09, 2020 1:19 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 23282

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

So ... I know that I shouldn’t ask this question, but what to you think will most likely happen. I really don’t want the reason that this spark doesn’t happen is because of her being busy and of me being busy as well. And I really also don’t wanna overwhelm her as well, as she hasn’t been checking b...
by Sabine
Wed Sep 09, 2020 2:55 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 23282

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

Okay, I sent her a message. I hope to get one soon. I just don’t want it to be like my other “busy” crush who didn’t end up contacting me at all and deleting her instagram (actually all forms of contact with me). :cry: My message was on Instagram and I had to go through some guidance with my Dad. It...
by Sabine
Mon Sep 07, 2020 1:36 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 23282

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

Also, I want to tell her I like her at the right moment and signal to her that I like her so. However, at the same time I fear that just like the last crush, she is just too busy and won’t be able to have a relationship (for her). I mean I am busy too, but I want to have a relationship and plenty of...
by Sabine
Mon Sep 07, 2020 1:28 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 23282

Re: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

Thats what I got from it too and other people got from it too. I was thinking of writing like a short little message on my dating app letting her know I thought about her. I haven’t communicated that I have enjoyed talking to her thus far, but I am thinking of doing it in a future message. After all...
by Sabine
Sun Sep 06, 2020 1:43 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.
Replies: 77
Views: 23282

My crush didn’t show up for a video chat ... now what to do.

I have been waiting for my crush and date to show up on Friday at 7 PM my time on Instagram, but she didn’t. But, she did say she was helping her sister move and settle in. She also didn’t respond to me since Tuesday, but followed me on Instagram and I am sure flirted with me a lot un the last full ...
by Sabine
Wed Aug 26, 2020 9:21 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: I feel like sometimes I will never be attractive for a girl
Replies: 4
Views: 3822

Re: I feel like sometimes I will never be attractive for a girl

My breakup was 1 year ago, March and I didn’t have my dating app because the supervisor of my independent living program (that I am leaving because COVID-19 and my situation) made me delete it because I was sending nudes. But, yeah the nude sending resulted in my second Insta getting hacked! And aro...