Hi Anonym05 I think choosing a safe platform and making sure you trust your partner are some of the main points to consider, really. Use a secure platform that offers end-to-end encryption, like Signal. It's a good idea to talk to your partner- the two of you need to be on the same page about all th...

Hi there, AttaccaAmoeba44- welcome the the boards!

Don't worry, I'm sure that you're not doomed to only see guys as romantic partners. If you don't mind, would you talk a bit about what goes on in your mind when you fall for these guys? And what are these feelings like?

Hi there, irjus876- welcome to the boards! Don't worry- based on what I understand of this situation, there shouldn't be any risk. (If you're open to doing some reading, may I suggest our article on the Buddy System ? In short, no method of contraception is 100% effective at preventing pregnancy, bu...

it's about the same girl, only the sort of situationship was with another person

Ahh, I understand.

Since it isn't bothering you that much, you don't need to be concerned. The crush will probably go away on its own with some time, like it has before.

Okay! You mentioned that you've tried to distract yourself with your hobbies. Is there anything else you've tried? Do you think you could reach out to another person who you could talk to or spend time with when you feel like this? How viable do you think it would be to reduce the time you spend on ...

Hi there, Ace- welcome to the boards! This is a good question. While plenty of people with histories of self-harm practice BDSM safely, you're right that there is a risk that masochism could become another method of self-harm. I think that to practice BDSM you need to be very self-aware, you need to...

i don’t really remember what the situation was like Ah, fair enough. If you can, try to make a note of what you've been doing if you catch yourself feeling this way again. Also, would you like to brainstorm a plan of action for these situations together? Just a list of things you can do that will h...

Hi there, El298 Just to clarify, is this all about the same person, or about multiple different people? It isn't unusual for crushes to take up a lot of attention, so I think it is understandable that you're thinking about her. Do these crushes bother you or make it difficult for you to do other thi...

Hi there, ParlovsLie- welcome to the boards! I am unsure on how... explicit one is allowed to get. Don't worry, if it is relevant to your question, you can explain things in as much detail as you need. 1. Hmmm, I think it is likely that you do have a G-spot, but that touching it hasn't been obviousl...

Hi there, DeathLettuce- welcome to the boards! You know, as you get to know your body and learn what you like, I think you'll be able to feel pleasure from masturbation more consistently. It may be useful to remember that pleasure is really a whole body and mind phenomenon. If you'd like, try explor...

Hi there, lb07 I'm sorry, this must be so isolating. I understand how it can feel right to blame yourself, to call yourself stupid and an idiot. But those thoughts are not justified. This is a complicated problem- if the solution was simple, you would have found it already. So don't blame yourself, ...

Hi there Berkley2003 Those are good steps (be proud of yourself for the progress that you're making!). You're right that this is a journey- with time, the steps that you are taking will add up, and you will feel more comfortable and less ashamed. What are some things you can do? If you would like, m...

Hi there, Belled Honestly, you're on the right track with all of this. I get why you feel like there's unfinished business- you put quite a bit of thought into all this and there was some buildup, but nothing came of it. As I understand, this breakup happened recently. Give yourself some time to pro...

Hi there, Halecret- welcome to the boards!

So sorry, I'm not sure I understand what you mean by a willy. Would you clarify a bit?

That's alright, don't worry!

Hi there, Sixofgeese I can see why you're feeling desperate, this seems awful. I'm not sure what you've already tried, but as I see it now there are two things we can consider to address the cause of your self-harm. Firstly, you could try to find ways of masturbating that feel more gender-affirming/...

Hi CatMatRat99

Gloves can be useful, but they are not necessarily required. It is important to wash your hands and trim your nails.

Hi there, Confusedinlove! I understand why you're feeling this way- it can be pretty embarrassing to think of telling your parents about a relationship for the first time. Still, from what you've said, I get the sense that your parents don't seem like they'll have objections to you dating someone, o...

Hi again, lb07

Ah, it is understandable that you want romantic love. If you feel okay talking about it, what did you mean by 'they always end up leaving me'?

Should you visit the doctor? Oh yes, that might be a good idea- they could look into the cause of the irregular periods that you mentioned, if you don't know the cause already.

Hi Amyk Yes, it is true that peeing more often during pregnancy is due to increased levels of hCG, and yes, if you were pregnant, it would show up on pregnancy tests by now. But don't worry, you can trust the results of the pregnancy tests that you've been taking- you are not pregnant. Really, you d...

Hi there, lb07 You know, when we do things that we know are not good for us, there can sometimes be a sense that anything bad that happens is just what we deserve, or even what we want. I want to tell you that this isn't true. As Sam said earlier, it was awful and gross for that person on Reddit to ...

Hi there, hellohello333 I can understand why you'd be worried that you won't find anyone who will share your interests, but let me assure you that that won't be the case. Bear with me while I do some math. If only one percent of people like something, I think we can say that it is an uncommon intere...

Hi there, Amyk is 3 weeks an accurate amount of time to wait for an accurate result? would the pregnancy hormone show up on a test by now (3 and a bit weeks post sexual encounter?) Yes, waiting three weeks is enough for an accurate result, and yes, the pregnancy hormone (hCG) would show up on a test...

Hi there, 55

Yes, that's right- so long as your shot is scheduled properly, you won't need a backup birth control method.