Cool, thank you! Yeah, I should have specified that they aren't sex repulsed all the time, but they are sometimes (generally they just don't experience sexual attraction but are willing to engage in sex as something that I enjoy). I've also made it clear to them that if they became sex repulsed on a...

Hey friends, My partner is asexual and I'm either allosexual or demisexual. While our relationship isn't all that new, I think we're still working out how sex fits in (or doesn't) to our relationship. I was wondering if there are any others out there in an ace/allo relationship? How do you go about ...

How am I feeling so far? Well, I feel really safe and comfortable with them. I like them a lot. I like that we get to be ourselves with each other and there's a lot of nonjudgmentalness from both of us. I like that our expectations are verbalized rather than implied or just assumed. I appreciate tha...

Oh, there's an easy answer to your question about the nervousness.This is my first romantic relationship. I don't really have a good gage of what's normal. I guess I just wasn't romantically interested in anyone for most of my adult life 🤷🏼 I'd honestly thought I was going to be single for my life a...

I was wondering how you can tell whether the honeymoon stage of a relationship is healthy? I recently got into a relationship (it's been six weeks). We met at a conference, spent a week together, realised we had feelings for each other on the last day, and then boarded planes to our separate countri...

Makes sense, Nicole. And it occurs to me that we've really already had this conversation with one another. They've told me on no uncertain terms that they will let me know if they don't want to do something at the moment (or ever). I'm probably way overthinking this!

Oh wait ... it'll be nearly six months before we see each other in person again anyways. (We're doing the long distance relationship thing)

Thanks for the information. The worry about taking hormonal birth control is that it might feel "wrong" for my gender. I took birth control pills briefly as a teen to regulate my cycle and it just felt awful. And I'll ask my partner to buy some condoms, just in case (again, not entirely su...

Hi, I recently started dating someone and we're interested in having sex (using the term very loosely here, kind of as a blanket for any sexual contact). We're both nonbinary/genderqueer. They're asexual but not sex repulsed. Basically, sex, in the right circumstances, is enjoyable to them insofar a...

Yep, now that you mention it, definitely my corona. It just didn't occur to me that it could be that thick ... and I also assumed most of it would have worn away at my age. I wonder if that's why I could never get a tampon in, they were always so uncomfortable! Despite being very aroused and using l...

Hi there, I was wondering if you could help me figure out my body. When I stick a finger in my vagina, I can feel a hard area. It's like a semi-circle against the front side close to the entrance of my vagina. It feels large but it's probably just because it's in a small space. I'm pretty sure it's ...

Cool, thank you!

Hi there, Still new to this whole orgasm thing. I was enjoying myself the other night and I hit a nerve where both of my legs went completely numb for a fraction of a second. I've only had something like happen before when I hit my funny bone by accident. I'm laughing a little as I write this, but i...

Thank you, Heather, for your wisdom and insight! I was definitely feeling very aroused and relaxed - and safe and well-loved (the fantasies REALLY help with all that). I was back in the "mood" and tried again tonight and found the experience almost exactly the same. Just wonderful, I still...

Hi, Totally new here. I'm a 24-year-old nonbinary person with a vulva/vagina/clitoris (etc). I have been masturbating since I was probably 11 or 12 but I realised recently that sexual fantasies are really important for masturbation to feel like a sexual experience (rather than just sort of running r...