So I put a topic similar to this out about a year ago, but now I'm revisiting it, as I'm a year older and a whole lot less ashamed. At what age is it socially acceptable for me to have sex? I know that's not a good question. It's different for everyone, depending on the situation and the community a...

I stopped seeing the counselor because there's a limit to what the school will pay for in terms of numbers of visits, and also I felt like it wasn't really helping that much anymore... it was just talking, and I can do that with (really understanding) friends. It definitely helped in the beginning, ...

College just started up two weeks ago and I don't know what's going on. I usually have a healthy appetite - I eat almost as much as my 15yo brother, and he eats a LOT. I feel good about my body and I exercise a fair amount (taking ballet and tennis this semester) so that's not an issue. I'm just... ...

Okay, so the length of the average vagina when aroused is four and a half inches, and the length of the average penis when aroused is about five and a half inches. Why??? Shouldn't penises be shorter than vaginas, to reduce chances of hitting the cervix and causing discomfort, making the female less...

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Thanks so much! B&N, usually... I can also do Amazon or Ebay.

Online... there's really no queer-friendly bookstores around here.

Some days I do feel totally male, though, so packers aren't out of the range of what I'm going for.

I've mostly just googled packers and binding, and came across resources like ftmguide.org... Honestly, my body shape's pretty undeniably feminine (my hip-to-waist ratio is ridiculous), so I'd really appreciate suggestions for anything on looking more masculine without permanent physiological repercu...

Hey guys, I'm having trouble figuring out this whole packer thing. There are just so many options! Does anyone know a good packer (preferably doubling as an STP device) that would be good for a first-timer? I don't even have any male underwear yet, so what kinds do I need to make an STP packer work?...

Okie dokie, thanks! Also: oops! I was using "clitoral orgasm" as shorthand for "orgasm directly brought about by clitoral stimulation"...

TI've really just started trying penetration outside of a finger or two, so I haven't had any really good experiences with it yet... but not any really bad ones either (they tend to be kind of mediocre). It might just be that I'm just a bit nervous 'cause I'm exploring my body in a new way; could my...

No (I mean, the condom was lubricated, but I'm not sure that counts). I was going to try that next. It wasn't sticking or dragging, though, it was just hitting the end. Could mild discomfort from lack of lube cause that? I'll definitely try, though.

Hello, As far as I can tell from my research, vaginas are supposed to expand when its possessor is aroused, both in width and depth, stretching to accommodate whatever gets stuck in there (within reasonable limits, of course). However, I have not found this to be the case; even after I have come a f...

No problem, and good luck!

As I understand it, gender dysphoria and body dysphoria aren't necessarily the same thing, but it's been hard for me to research it without coming across all the old medical diagnoses for trans* people, so I usually quit more quickly than I probably should. By my estimation, however, what you are de...

Hi, Mills! I'd like to offer some thoughts. Keep in mind that I am rather inexperienced with relationships, but I think an outside perspective is almost always helpful. :) It sounds to me like the first main issue with your relationship is your lack of sexual desire for your partner; in most cases, ...

Thanks! I'll definitely remind her that I'm there for her, and I'll be sure not to pressure her to talk either.

Hi, Rawr! Remember, first and foremost, that your identity is your own. If you're not sure about your gender, don't dismiss your feelings just because it's unconventional or uncomfortable for others! Also, even if you do end up identifying as male, non-binary, genderqueer, or anything else, your ide...

You are absolutely not asking too much! I definitely understand the pressure that comes from not being able to be out -- I go to a Baptist college now, so I'm sure you can guess how THAT is going -- and I don't know how I'd deal if I didn't have a mom who asks not just about any cute guys in my clas...

Hi, Sappho! I had almost this exact same issue trying to explain to my mom why I now identify as non-binary. It's hard to get uninformed people to understand that whether or not we come out, we're stuck with a label, and if we don't come out, it's just automatically going to be cis-het. We're only t...

Hi, I'm fairly new and have never posted outside of the "Got Questions? Get Answers." board, so I'm not really sure what the protocol is here, so I'm just going to go for it. My mom was raped by her fiance about 20-25 years ago. She didn't stay in that relationship, and he's not my dad, bu...

Also, remember that you should never feel obligated to date someone, for any reason. If you do not feel 100% safe with a guy (or girl, or non-binary person) whom you are considering as a significant other, it is generally a bad idea to get involved with them -- not just this guy specifically. Relati...

And remember, you don't have to be attracted to one or the other! You can be attracted to guys AND girls, or neither guys NOR girls, and if you're attracted to both, you don't have to be attracted to each gender equally. Anything you end up deciding about your sexuality is perfectly okay, and ultima...