Hi El000, Hope it's okay I'm stepping in here. If there is semen present during the hand job, washing your hands afterward could provide some peace of mind. Also just a good general hygiene tip after coming in contact with someone's genitals! An additional safety technique could be avoiding touching...

Hey SillyMcGoof_, It sounds like this could be your clitoral hood. Check out this excerpt from our article, Innies & Outies: The Vagina, Clitoris, Uterus and More : Looking at the vestibule, between those inner labia from the top down (right below your mons), you'll first see the top of the inne...

Hi there, It's completely normal for romantic attraction to vary. For instance, you may experience everything from a mild, fleeting crush, to intense romantic feelings. The same goes for platonic attraction. You can feel friendly with one person, then really want to build a close friendship with som...

Hi raily_, I hope it's okay that I am stepping in here. It sounds like you and your boyfriend are very safe at preventing pregnancy. I've also struggled with intense anxiety around unwanted outcomes from sexual activity, so I know where you're coming from! I would agree with loganw that you are bein...

Hi SillyMcGoof, It sounds really frustrating that you're having a hard time carrying out a fantasy. Sometimes what seems pleasurable in our heads may not actually work out in real life, and that's okay. The vaginal canal doesn't have very many nerve endings. As you said, many people don't experience...

Hi st4rryc4at, Welcome to the boards! I think the most important thing to recognize here is that the fantasies we have may not be experiences we're actually interested in having. Fantasizing is a very normal, healthy part of sexuality. It's also possible to be sexually attracted to and desire a gend...

Hi Diktator, Yes, it's completely normal to experience arousal while watching sexually stimulating scenes without any physical touch. As long as everything is consensual and not causing harm, this is a perfectly healthy sexual experience. You can read more about the relationship between physical and...

Hi Soph22, I'd like to start by saying there's nothing wrong with the sexual feelings you're having. "Normal" is an interesting concept when it comes to sexuality. I think it's more important to focus on what you want and are excited about rather than what is considered "normal"....

I think it's okay to feel uncertain about how you feel; having a conversation with Q and N may even help to clarify things. In terms of sufficiency for romantic relationships, there is no one size fits all model of what this should look like. As long as everyone is getting their needs met and feels ...

Thank you for giving me a bit more information. It sounds like you're interested in communicating about these feelings, but are concerned about the outcome. I think open and honest communication is the best course of action. The only way to know for sure how they feel about you is to ask and express...

Hi Ryan, hope it's okay Im jumping in here as well. I agree with Carly that a shower before and maybe even after could help with the anxiety over cleanliness. I'd also like to reiterate the option to use condoms on toys if getting a small amount of feces on them is uncomfortable for you. Depending o...

Hi Asking Queries, Welcome to the boards! It's completely normal to desire physical intimacy with people. It sounds like these platonic relationships have a great foundation of communication and respect. As you said, as long as everyone involved is consenting to physical contact, it's totally okay t...

Hi White82408, I think the biggest thing to remember here is that one of the most important aspects of pleasure is the mind, and everyone is different. People have different sexual preferences for what brings them the most pleasure, as well as anatomical differences that make the act of fingering sl...

Hi Berkeley2003, I'm glad to hear you're excited to embrace the uncertainty and navigate your gender identity while also understanding how your OCD impacts everything. I have taken a look at your previous thread on here and am wondering if you've explored meeting with the gender therapist for a cons...

Hi there SillyMcGoof_, I'm sorry you're experiencing some uncomfortable feelings about your sexuality. It sounds like you've been on a journey exploring your sexuality a lot lately, which can be exciting but complicated at the same time. There is nothing shameful about sexuality, but there are unfor...

Sexual experiences are exciting opportunities to connect with yourself and others. It can be a moment of intense emotion and pleasure, where everything feels good. After the sexual experience, however, such an intense encounter can sometimes need additional care after the fact. This is where afterca...

Hello Depressed mess, It sounds like you've done some productive reflecting on these thoughts already; you're right, you can't control a lot of these thoughts and feelings. I'm hearing that you and your partner have an immense amount of respect for one another, along with a great foundation of frien...

Thank you for letting me know! In that case, another suggestion I would have is exploring fantasy. The brain is the most important sex organ one can utilize. It's free and you always have access to it! We have some great content on fantasy on the site, which you may have already explored. An article...

I love this topic and its responses! Also a fan of 5-4-3-2-1. And painting on your body sounds so fun! I had a friend who would do this and then lay on large sheets of butcher paper. Great way to create some unique art. Personally, I'm a fan of literally laying on the ground! I hold all my anxiety i...

Hi SillyMcGoof, Thank you for letting us know the language you're comfortable with. Looking back on some of your previous posts, it seems like you're exploring your body and sexuality a lot lately which is exciting! It's so important to build that relationship with yourself and understand what you l...

Hi candybee632, I'm happy to hear you're exploring your body. Understanding pleasure and nurturing the relationship you have with yourself is super important when exploring sexuality. The internet is sometimes hard to comb through and can feel overwhelming. Have you taken a look at the Scarleteen ar...

Spring has sprung! In honor of the first day of spring in the Northern Hemisphere, I'd like to propose a discussion on getting outside and moving your body. The frost and downpours have (hopefully) started to subside and the sun may be beginning to peak out a little more. The sun sets later and pro...

Oftentimes when we think of pleasure, it feels like it's always tied to sex. While sex in all its forms can be an extremely pleasurable experience, I'd like to take some time to expand on what pleasure means. By noticing pleasure in circumstances outside of a sexual encounter, it can make us more aw...

While it's important to nurture relationships with partners, friends, family, and everyone in between, one of the most important relationships to consider is the one you have with yourself. After all, we can't fully show up to our external relationships if our internal relationship with ourselves is...