I’ve struggled with fatigue for a while but before I got on the pill, it was never so bad that I was falling asleep in class even after 8 hours of sleep, and then I’d need a 2 hour nap later. My sleep has been messed up lately because of personal issues that are making me anxious. But until a week a...

My doctor is seeing me in late December to talk about it. She said it could take 4 months to adjust. I’m so tired of the side effects! It’s reduced my cramps by like 90% but bleeding mid month and feeling super tired every day is so hard to deal with. Do you think that bleeding for like 20 days a mo...

I always end up taking my pills sometime between 10 pm and 1 am, very rarely 2 am. My alarm is set for 11 pm every day but sometimes I go to bed early or stay out late. I’m on Slynd, which is a progestin only pill and its website says it has a “24 hour safe window.” I’ve been on it for just over 2 m...

Are there any non flavored ones that are non latex? I was tested and I’m not technically allergic, but I have contact dermatitis.

I’ve used protection for oral before but I’ve just DIYed it from nonlubricated latex free condoms. I found latex free dental dams online that I want to try but all of them have some kind of scent or flavor (same for all the ones that do have latex). This might be a stupid question, but how is that s...

I actually talked to my best friend yesterday and found out that they hate holding hands and cuddling which is a bit disappointing but everyone has their own preferences. I might ask some of my other close friends even though it feels really awkward.

It feels kind of awkward because most of my friends are queer women and I have 2 guy friends who are hetero-romantic and I don’t want anyone getting the wrong ideas.

Hi again Heather. I’ve been spreading out my emotional needs across a bigger group of people than just my girlfriend and that’s been really good for my mental health. I talk to my friends and family and my therapist. But it feels much more weird to meet my physical needs with people and I don’t know...

Hi Jay- I'm jumping in because I'm on shift, I hope you don't mind. I completely understand how it could seem awkward to ask your friends for more touch. It might help to keep in mind that a lot of people know what it is like to feel a bit touched starved, and that plenty of people enjoy hugs and o...

Hi Heather! As you can tell from this post my gf and I are still together but we changed our expectations and are acting more like friends for now. We’re doing better. I’d like to ask my friends for more touch but I don’t know how. I feel like it might be awkward. Volunteering at an animal shelter s...

Before my gf went abroad, we used to hold hands, hug, and cuddle really often. I miss that physical touch a lot. I hug my friends sometimes but it’s just for a couple seconds saying hi or bye and it’s not the same. Any advice to help me deal with this until she gets back?

I’m in a relationship that’s been long distance for a month due to study abroad and my partner will be moving back in December. Ever since my gf and I started seeing each other last year, we’ve been really big on physical touch. We always held hands walking anywhere, gave long hugs, and cuddled almo...

I hope so! Thank you for all the advice!

Thank you so much! I’m really inexperienced and I’m trying my best. I already texted her this morning and told her I had a good therapy session and I want to work on myself more and be more independent. She said she’s glad I’m getting support and trying to make my own plans instead of shaping my sch...

Thankfully none of my friends believe that being friends with an ex is a red flag but a lot of movies, tv shows, and stuff on social media says it. I think it’s bs. My therapy session was super helpful. I’m realizing that while my gf and I have compatibility issues, I have a lot of stuff I need to w...

I don’t like the idea that being friends with an ex automatically = red flag. If we ever broke up, my gf and I have already agreed that we would want to stay friendly after. We go to the same college, have mutual friends, and are in an extracurricular together so it just makes sense. My therapist an...

What you said about it taking commitment to reframe and maintain a relationship really resonates with me. I feel like the typical breakup where you just stop being in each other’s lives would be giving up (in our situation). There’s so much good in our relationship and I don’t want to just cut all t...

That’s really interesting. I never thought that giving someone more space doesn’t mean less commitment. I think the label of girlfriend can mean so many different things. Like for some people they’re living with their girlfriend for years and sharing finances, or for someone else girlfriend can mean...

Thank you for the advice <3 It’s hard to know how I’ll bring this up with her or how I’ll explain what I want. I’m still not 100% sure what I want. And it raises a lot of questions, like are we still going to call each other girlfriends? Are we single or taken? Are we still going to do something for...

I have spoken to her about it. We’ve only had a few big arguments in our relationship and this is the thing that’s always been the issue. She’s told me that she can’t meet my needs for more communication and more time. Even before we got together. So I feel like I need to accept this or we can’t be ...

I hear that “taking a break = breakup.” But I think I might need a break from my relationship but I don’t want to break up with her. I don’t know if I can keep doing a long distance relationship but my gf will be back in town by December. She’s so busy and doesn’t want to spend as much time with me ...

Yeah I really hope it’s temporary. I didn’t think my anxiety could get any worse.

Really? I saw depression as one of the side effects on the big sheet of paper that comes in the box. My gyno didn’t talk to me about the common and less serious side effects. She just told me about the severe ones like the long term breast cancer risk possibly being higher.

It’s actually a mini pill so no estrogen. I’m high risk for blood clots. I have a follow up appointment with the gyno in 3 months. I’m still having the mid cycle cramps as always so hopefully those will stop soon. I’m so upset that I have to go on another medication, I’m on 5 now and the one I just ...

Oh I kind of forgot I can just call her.